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Okay so because of my religion, I’m not allowed to date. It is IMPOSSIBLE to convince my parents to let me date. One of my cousins asked about it before and her parents put her in boarding school. I don’t want that to happen to me. The guy I like is of african american descent and my parents have always though negatively about them so I don’t know how to tell them. I have considered just not being with him but I really do like him too much and I don’t think I’ll even be able to say that to his face..and he likes me too so it’s harder to say no… He asked me out and I said yes but I don’t know what I should do now… Should I just date him behind my parents back?

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Answer #1

where are your parents from???… I think its weird how your parents arranged for you to get married to this guy and then broke it off, you know.. thats just weird and dumb…! but like I said “THEY CANT FORCE YOU” it says in the quran, no one is allowed to be forced into something she doesn’t want to do… so your parents have no right for that… my situation was like you.. a lot. but it got out of hand, my parents wouldn’t let me date, and wouldn’t let me talk to guys at all… and I like’d someone aloot, and wanted to be with him, but my parents refused, so I went behind there back and dated the guy for almost a yr.. and I got caught 2 or 3 times, and they would punish me and stuff, last time they caught me I started thinking. “what am I doing here??, Like why am I doing this” and my parents would say the same thing and reacted just like yours, so I told my father to send me to palestine, that it would be better off for me, so I went to palestine, && while I was over here, I met someone and my father refused for me to get married or engaged to the guy.. then finally he did after he seen how much I changed, and really loved the guy.. (the guy is muslim).. Dont want to go into to much details. So basiclly in my situation I screwed up; cause I went behind there back and was dating the guy, which sucked, cause everything had to be on the downlow… and could hardly see him when iwanted to or anything like that.. The point is, is that if you do date him end the long runn you will get caught about it.. The right thing to do is just stay friends with the boy, make him understand about your religion; and I promise you, that you’ll find someone, that your parents will like..

Answer #2

I’m a muslim..and it’s like voodoo to date. and I’ve listened to my parents and been good for all my life..they even got me engaged, and I was starting to like the guy, and then they broke it off so I don’t even know whether I trust their judgement anymore. I finally find a guy that I truly have feelings for and then it’s like..I’m not allowed to date him. I don’t want to do it for the popularity or anything. What am I supposed to do?

Answer #3

well they broke it off for a reason they wouldn’t say. and I can’t continue talking to him because well..it’s not really going to get anywhere is it. I’m planning to stay a virgin until marriage, that’s not going to change. I know all the muslim guys around here and they all suck. …what did you do in your situation?

Answer #4

and im muslim as well… and I completely understand what your going through… I was also in your situation before. and a lot… Why’d they break it off with the guy? and I personal think your parents can’t force you to marriage, or engagement… have you try’d finding a muslim guy maybe?… The only reason why your parents don’t want you to date, is cause there scared that something might go wrong, and in the long run when someone does come and ask for you hand, and hears that your not a virgin or have been dating and letting other people touch you, he’s not going to want to marry you anymore, and that will put a bad rep on you… Before thinking about how much you really like this guy; think like parents, “is he going to marry you?… Is he going to support you more than how they supported you?…etc…” you know.! And if you started liking the other guy why didnt you just keep talking to him?… even if your parents broke it off…??.. All I can say is that your parents are looking for your future, not tomorrow… They want whats best for you… And if you really like this guy or even more “LOVE” him, and don’t feel like he’s going to just use you in anyway, then go for it… you know?.. But honestly in the end it all comes back on you, and sooner or later you parents will find out!…

Answer #5

hmm.. well what is your religion??? there is a reason why your parents don’t want you to date, not to make you messirable or anything like that, but they have there ways. I know. My religion also is not allowed to date.. (maybe we have same religion) and I used to be mad at about; and went behind there back and dated. (which I regret now) but now I realized why they didnt want me to date.. It was for my future… So you would want to think twice before what you do… cause in the long runn you might regret that you went behind there back and dated… Or might do something wrong… && plus im sure you don’t want them to put you in boarding school… So just think twice if this is what you really want to do… (dating wont make you popular at school I PROMISE that)

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