My girlfriend gave some dude head.

Okay so I was dating this girl for a few weeks, and things at school got really hectic with pledging a fraternity, being VP of my class, and doing a bunch of other stuff and I couldn’t handle a relationship at that time. I told her that we needed to break up but that I still liked her and that if things calmed down soon we’d take it from there. She had been hanging out with one of my friends a lot and they got close. I knew that kid was kind of s scum bag so I talked to him the day she and I broke up that I still liked her and vented the situation to him so that he wouldn’t try anything. A few weeks later things calm down and she and I start hanging out again. Things were going really well and she asked if I’d be interested in getting back together and I said definitely. She then told me that she had gotten fingered and given head to the guy/my friend that she was hanging out with. I felt sick to my stomach, but after talking to some friends, and hearing her appology (she used to be that type of girl but has changed a lot) I decided to take her back. I have always been scared of her past but this made it seem like it had come back which scares me. The image of her blowing this guy haunts me every day. What should I do or thing of it?

Thanks

Answer #1

Well, she didn’t cheat on you, but I can understand why you’d be a little upset and grossed out by the fact that she’s messed around with a friend of yours. But, since you think that guy’s a “scumbag”, you really can’t be that good of friends with him and unless your girlfriend’s a virgin, she’d of done stuff with other guys before you anyways. Try not to take it personally, but if you can’t get over it, you need to break up with her. If you’re going to constantly have that image in the back of your mind and have less than perfect trust of her from the get go, it’s going to lead to bitterness and arguments from “punishing” her for something that really isn’t her fault. Give it a chance, but be fair to the girl and understand it’s your issue, she didn’t do anything wrong.

Answer #2

well she didnt cheat on you so you should be thankful, however doing something like that with your friend is unforgivable in my book, if my boyfriend had ever done that to one of my friend I would atually murder him, I understand you like her and she appologized but dont you think sometimes it isnt enough, but she did tell you about it so I think you could trust her again? well its up to you, but if you think she deserves another chance then why not :]

Answer #3

well, she didnt cheat on you. you were not together. you cant hold sexual past against her if you were not a couple.

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