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My friend's funeral and my boyfriends birthday are on the same day

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Please help me to do the right thing.

My friend, Nick Lewis died recently [07.15.08] due to a motorcycle accident and I had never actually seen him in person but we usually always message each other on myspace, chat on aim, and text on the phone, etc. and he is a really good supportive friend and a great person.

My boyfriend takes birthday VERY SERIOUSLY especially this one because it's his 18th birthday AND he's going to turn himself in pretty soon after his birthday which makes the celebration even more important.

I don't want to piss my boyfriend off but I really would like to show some respect to Nick.

I did think about going to both...but I think the funeral will take a while and I really don't want to leave in the middle of someone making a speech or something, that's just super rude.

What would you do?