My Fathers respect level for me... where can I go now?

Today, like every other day, my dad was a total jerk to me.

First of all, he took away my 360, for no reason, when I ask why he ignores me. I asked him if I could have it back, he said “Shut Up”

Then I said, “if Meghan can play Wii and her DS, which she gave up for lent, why cant I have my 360 back”

“SHUT UP, GOD DAMNIT I TOLD YOU ALREADY”

Then, it started to pour down rain, my little sister comes in and tells my Dad that this little cart thing is in the rain. He tells me to go get it.

So I go get it, but instead of doing the 100ft walk from our front yard in the freezing rain, I carry it 15 feet through the house. But before I was able to walk into the house, my sister goes (and she is only 9) “Why are you carrying it through the house stupid” in a really manly, insulting kind of way.” My dad is 10 feet away, laughing at me, and I hit my sister for saying it. (Not a punch-in-the-face kind of way, more like a thump-on-the-shoulder kind of way).

So he goes off his rocker, saying I could hurt her doing that, then he yells at me when I start carrying it through the house, and accidently lightly tap a wall with the rubber wheel. Then I get mad at him for not every discplining my sister, so he goes to my room, and throws my book bag at the window, and when I go get it, he locks me out of the house… this is getting rediculous, everyday I lose what little respect I have for him.

Im about to start doing this

“If he wont respect me, I wont respect him”

Answer #1

I can tell you’re mad…but I get the feeling that you DO know why he took your 360 away. Is homework being done a first priority?? You may not feel the rules are fair…and on this subject you may be able negotiate…but not unless you acknowledge the rules “as they are” now…

Granted your dad’s behavior isn’t particularily “grown up”, either…but the fact that he’s the dad…and you aren’t…still allows him to set rules.

Wait till he cools off…and YOU cool off…and then ask to talk about things…I can tell you that he’s not feeling any better about all this than you are…

granny phrannie

Answer #2

Ovbiously your dad is getting a kick out of treating you like crap. Well Heres my advice. I have gone through this also. All you can do is worry about your self. Take ownership on your actions and do what you need to do. The best way to have your dad respect you is if you dont back talk him or ask him stupid questions about your 360. I know you can find something els to do that will waste your time. If he sees that his punishments are not effecting you and upsetting you he will not be as harsh on you. But the biggest thing is not to give him attitude. If worse comes to worse avoid your dad and your sister and just hide out in your bedroom and do whatever PICK YOUR BATTLES!

Hope this helps!

Answer #3

I get all my homework done at school. Usually I dont give him attitude but I just got mad tonight. Enough is enough

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