My daughter, please help

I am a single father of 1 girl and 3 boys, the girl is 15, and the boys are 16, 18, & 20. We are a very close family but my daughter is very moody, and is very upset when little things go wrong. She is very tiny, wears size 0 and she;s around 56 and cant way more than 105. she is always tired, I am afraid she has an eating disorder. she is very popular and I have asked her to go to a doctor and she screams. I cant make her, she wont get in the car. I could force her but she would freak out. I cant go another day with her like this I just dont know what to do. if you answer this please put into mind she is very moody, and going to the hospital is … I want her to go infact I feel she needs to go for a while she never eats. I know whatever I do she will be mad or I will regret it, she NEEDS to go to the hospital, how can I get her there she will NOT budge and if you drive her there she will run. This is very hard on everyone, but she needs it or she can die. She does anything to avoid eating. please please help I just don’t know what to do Thank you.

Answer #1

My daughter was diagnosed anorexic about two years ago. It was so very hard. You need to step up and get her to the doctor ASAP. My daughter was seeing her doctor regularly and ended up in the hospital for 18 days and then a facility in Florida for 8 weeks. Very serious disease. Please get help.

Answer #2

this might sound absurb to you but im a black dude im pro at handling kids. buy a belt, fold it in half put your poker face on and tell her you will whip her if she does not get in the car and get some help immediately. or you could wait till shes sleep, very gently pick her up put her in the car goto the hospital have her strapped down and let them give her some of that stuff that makes them sleep longer so they can I’ve her. when shes better find a good shrink,counseler, or therapist to see what her problem is and why she doesnt thunk she needs to eat

Answer #3

Call a doctor to come to your place while your daughter is at school. When she comes home sit her down with the doctor and tell her to tell the doctor about what is going on. If this doesnt help im srry. I wish you and you daughter the best of luck!!!

Answer #4

Im around your daugters age and I do as well get mad easy at my parents, but I eventually get over it. Tell her how you feel and explain it, do research on the computer with proof behind it. Get a website that tells you what your weight should be for her hight. It’s definatly not 105, so show her proof and tell her you are worried.

Answer #5

get a dopctor round to your house without her knowing one day ? or like they said. your her father .. take control and speak to her about the worse what could happen to her!!! best of luck :)

Answer #6

it sounds like you need to contact emergency medical services, have an ambulance dispatched, with police officers present- to make sure she complies with your wishes. I realize this is a rather difficult situation, she will be mad at (or rather the diseased person will be mad at you) once she makes it through recovery it will get better. you are her legal guardian- and you are acting in her best interests to save her life. I would contact the authorities, and see what assistance they can provide.

I do not know what good an ‘intervention’ could do- but that is a thought as well. contact a eating disorder councelor- they should be able to get you steered in the right direction and give you some helpful advice.

attempt to keep what you are doing “quiet”- if she catches wind of what is coming- she may take off.

Answer #7

pick her up and put her in the car ! you are her father … !

Answer #8

No matter what, you are her father…if you think something is wrong then force her. Yeah, she’s going to be mad but that’s nothing compared to what kind of damage she’s doing to herself. Call around at different hospitals and see what they suggest, I’m sure they’ve heard all the stories before and have had lots of teenage girls try to run away. You have every legal right to get her help since she’s under 18. Get her the help she needs before it’s too late.

When girls starve them selves they get moody, there hormones are running amuck. Help her while she’s still a minor, once she hits 18 there’s nothing you can do. I am sending you a list of eating disorder hotlines…call them, they will help.

Answer #9

I’d speak to a medical professional for options - possibly one who specializes in interventions…I wish you and your daughter the best !!

Answer #10

you need to get her seen too quickly

Answer #11

She might be biploar. My friends older sister was doing similar stuff, and they had to send her to a special home because she got to the point where she wouldn’t even take her meds, even though she knew it made everything better.

But I’m no doctor. My sister can be sorta like that, and there’s nothing wrong with her. She’s just 15.

Though, does she have a boyfriend? Not trying to say anything against you or your family, but one thing might be a possibility.

Answer #12

umm theres always trying to trick hur maybe say that you want her to go to the store with you or something and then go to the hospital. im not sure. but imma be truth ful here. I have an eating disorder and I hate it when people try to get me to eat or go the hospital because overcoming it is really hard and sometimes starving yourself feels like perfection in a bottle? I hope your getting where im coming from…and most importantly if she has a boyfriend you could talk to him about it because if she really loves him she will try to make him happy and maybe she will eat something. also you could try to be honest with her. maybe research a little of info about what happens to people with and eating dissoreder. you might be lucky enough to scare her out of it. (if you need anything else, any other ideas,anything, please message me!)

Answer #13

You could sit her down and give her the “you need to go to the hospital because I’m really worried about you” speech or you could drag her to the hospital by force. I mean COME ON she’s a size zero? She cant fight back! And afterwards you should be like “You see, if you gained weight, I wouldnt be able to force you to do anything.” But seriously, she needs help. If she doesnt realise it now then she will when she’s sitting in a hospital bed wretching up her guts, sweating and shivering and screaming “Daddy, help me.” You have to make her realise NOW, and stop waiting for her to keel over. Either show her other girls that’ve went through someone who used to do the same things she does and how it affected her. She needs to SEE and not just hear. You ever heard the saying Seeing is believing? Well its not a joke and you have to show her. What she feels now (her need to be accepted by friends) will be amplified to a pain worse than that if she continues with this.

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