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my dad alwys brings me down wit words and it hurts.why cant he see

my parents always bring me down with words. like how im stupid and im not going anywere and the things I do are gonna get me arrested.. and it hurts. they dont know there hurting mee. alott;;. I try to be good; I really doo!! but its hard and theyre makin it harder. im already stressed about a lot of stuff and I hate dem making me feel worse.

and when something happens he NEVERR lets me finish my side of the story. even if im correct he finds a way to turn it around and make it my fault again. and if I said anything bad to him ill be in trouble. and I cry when he brings me down with words. I hate my parentss.!

they dont listen to me when I say stop calin me names and stuff. they still do ittt. I want to break down crying in front of dem but dey wont careee.

what shud I dooo : (

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Answer #1

I dont no how old you are or what you could be doing to nerly get arested but when my mum and dad said but stuff it wast that that bother me it was the beating I got in the end I looked for a nother place to stay like with my mate and her mum if your mum and dad are calling you this then its mental abuse eather way they shouldt say stuff like that to you they need to take a reality check I hate moms and dads like this if they carry on you will only get worse and later on in life you will end up depresed if you take any sort of notice of what they are saying to you im very unhappy with how I was brought up tell them the next time you call me that I will ring social services and tell them you are mentaly and emotionally abuseing me they might thing twice about doing it again and if they dont you might want to go in to care its not that bad in ther at all at least they dont mess your head up and you get your own time and cooked meals clean washing and all that if you say to social service that you dont want to be there then they will take you if your dad says I will tell them to fook of lol then say well I will have to tell them that as well so they bring the police and also add to them when you start treating me with a little respect I wi8ll give it bk if your dad talks over you let him look him in the face and when hes finshed giveing it the big one say is it ok if I get a word in now if he says no say ok and walk up to your room and dont say another word or you could try the silant treatment my dad would end up offering me money in the end good luck x

Answer #2

I get the same from my parents. I could never change them so I just learned to live with it.

Maybe you can try and write them a letter telling them how you feel? I never tried it with mine, but it’s all I can think of that might work in getting through to them.

Answer #3

uhh, not all parents say that to teens. My mom’s evil like that, but my dad would never say anything to get me down, you’re dumb just for saying that. Just try your best to deal with it. : /

Answer #4

Try family counseling. The counselor will let you and your parent’s tell your own sides of story’s and opinions and this way hear each of you are hearing eachother out.

Answer #5

I’d tell them “Children look to their parents to be built up…not torn down”

It is their DUTY to look after their children’s best interests.

Answer #6

That’s how most parents are,my dad did the same thing when I was with him but I always found a way to get him to believe me,if your getting in trouble and he or your mom sees that,wait until they calm down,then once everyone is calm go up to them and explain your side. If they try to interrupt you while you are,simply tell them like most parents say “I’m talking let me finish” and continue on until your done.

Once your done they will try again to prove you wrong,if they do tell them again why you KNOW your right and they’re wrong,parents are wrong at times but sometimes it’s for the better.

Answer #7

You dont hate them.

Sure what they say hurts but they want whats best for you.

Have you ever thought that maybe what you do IS going to get you arrested? Have you maybe considered that the things you do ARE stupid?

Us teenagers want to be the victims of everything & we dont even realize it.

I recently realized that maybe not everything was my parents fault I mean they dont control me or make the do the things I do.

Stop blaming everything on them & take some of the blame I mean I KNOW for a fact that not everything is there fault.

Answer #8

all parents say that to teens you learn to deal with it. sorry 2 say):

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