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Mom locked me in a cage.

OK so I’m 15 and havent been to a friends house in 5 years. I ask her but she always has an excuse. She wants 2 know every detail of my life and barges into my room whenever she wants. Shes pushed me to the limit and I decided im moving out the day I graduate. She laughed at me. Shes not overprotective, shes locked me in a cage. I cant even go shopping without her approving my clothes or get a haircut without her approving it.

I know im being a bit rebellious and always yelling at her but she cant get off my case on anything. The worse part is im a straight A student and I still dont get anything better. All my friends have more freedom than I do. I have resorted 2 doing more clubs in school but im still not happy. What should I do 2 at least make myself happy when shes always right there. Im miserable!

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Answer #1

You could talk to your mom, but it sound’s like you’ve already tried that and she’s completely unreasonable. Perhaps talk to your dad and or grandparents and they could persuade her. Aside from that there’s not much you can do aside from what any caged animal would do and that is bide your time until the opportunity to escape presents itself. And by that I don’t mean running away from home, but you can legally move out without your parents permission at 17. Get a job now and save your money until then so that you can get your first apartment with a friend you can trust who is 18 and can legally sign a lease agreement. That’s exactly what I did at 17 and I turned out just fine, haven’t had to ask my parents for anything yet. Trust me when I say though that living on your own at 17 is very difficult and expensive so stay in school so you can get a good job and save money. When you’ve graduated at 18 you can go to college and get a dorm room or rent a house with other college girls your age. But like I said you have to be prepared because if you move out at 17 without your parents blessing they likely won’t be inclined to help you in the future with buying a car or loaning you money and the like. So save now. Fortunately for me I had my parent’s blessing. They knew I would make mistakes and I did, but they didn’t pick up the pieces I had to get myself out of the messes I made which builds character and teaches you important lessons if your able to learn from them. It’s sad that parents who shelter their kids so much actually do more harm than good because it leaves them ill prepared to deal with life once they leave the home and have to survive on their own. On the other hand if you would like your parents to always take care of you until your older just go along with the program, as long as their happy with what your doing and you follow directions they’ll likely help you with things like your first car, apartment, college etc..

Answer #2

Running away is not the right answer thanks for that collopollo. Your mum must be doing something right for you to be getting straight A’s and being involved with so many clubs. You may just have to sit her down and tell her that you are growing up and need a little more freedom to explore your life. Maybe she is scared of something happening to you.

Answer #3

no LEAVE just RUN AWAY she has NO RIGHT to do that.

Answer #4

Does she have a reason to NOT let you go anywhere??? Just try to talk to her & tell her how you feel about everything.

Answer #5

Talk to your guidance councilor. Maybe s/he can help with some family mediation. You must have some freedom to be on the internet complaining about her, right? You seem like a smart kid. If it is still a problem when you turn 18, move out. Until then, try to work on your relationship.

Answer #6

Say, “Mom. I feel like I’m really growing up well. I’m a staright-A student, my friends are nice, I haven’t gotten into trouble. Because I feel like I haven’t given you any reason not to trust me, I want to ask you for a little more freedom in my social life.” Start off small, ask to go to the movies with a couple girlfriends, or going to someone’s house after school. Tell her you’ll call her when you get there and before you leave, that the parents will be there, whatever. but yeah. You need to sit down and havea a convo. Be really level headed and don’t freak out. Say “I feel like…” and “I think that…” instead of “you are doing this to me, and it’s your fault.”

Answer #7

wow!! I compleatly agree with meganhead… if you can’t sort out your situation alone, just one on one with your mom…that you really need some help!! you should really see a guidance counsoller at school, and explain to them your situation and how you feel towards it…your mom really has no rights for controlling you like that…yet alone lock you up in a cage!! be brave and take a stand… honestly talk to someone you know that can help you and that you can trust, and sort this problem out!! take care and I wish you luck!!

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