why is my mom incapable of being proud of me ?

I think that deep down she is proud of you, some perents just like to go the hard way and make you believe otherwise. Meaby she just has not had the chance to sit to tell you it. Or she could be expecting for you to now that even though she does not mention it to you everyday. Have you tried just asking her that? Just asking her of she is proud of you?

Ashley, take some quiet time to sit down with your Mom (the only one you will ever have- I KNOW that is obvious) and express your feelings. Explore each others feelings on this subject- kind of like asking each other “Well this is what I would like- and you?” Don’t wait (like I did) until things get ‘set in stone’ and it becomes almost impossible to communicate, sooner is always better- just choose the right moment & environment. Good Luck, M.

Talking to your mom more often will help you out.By sending valuable time with her, you will understand her more and also she will also understand you more.Time changes everything and you please change your negative thinking of your mom and start talking to her more

Some individuals use a manner that is aggressive passive aggressive which can mask deeper feelings of well, anything, not naming any… Just ask yourself this, when did this really start to happen, and what event took place before this, probably not immediately before, so your just going to have to dive into your memories, and just think back. Nothing happens for no reason. Think Cause & Effect. If this was since you can remember, then you and your mom have some issues to discuss and you probably might not get the whole story. Stick to family you can trust that was there around when you could not remember. If it started to occur at a certain time, you might be able to pin point it. Then again, it might just be stress, or she’s developing a complex. There might be resentment for something or someone else, and without meaning to she might be aggressive to you during your interaction. Either case, I’m thinking that this situation might be a very delicate one. I just hope I’m wrong on that.

in a way i know how you feel my mum is like that she’s never acted likes shes proud of me but to my 2 bros a sis shes like awwww welll done or clever girl and all i get is JOSH GO TIDY YOUR ROOM and even when i do all the things she wants em to do shes stilll angry =@

My moms the same way, I love her cuz shes my mom and i kinda have to and all but at the same time I hate her too. Its like nothing i do is ever good enough, and that it would kill her to let something other than critisism out of her mouth. I know how you feel. Its like nothing you do is ever good enough. So I just kinda gave up, its evident that theres no pleasing her, and the more i try the more heartache i get. So i said ‘f*ck it, im just gonna do what i want’ im not saying thats what you should do, try to make an effort. But if you cant theres no need to beat yourself up about it

Also, i find that alot of parents utilize this tactic to push their kids to be beter, and excede their potential, but they dont realize that knockin em down just promotes low self esteem. If thats the case you need to look past it and make her realize that her way is destructive.

it started when i was about 8 when we moved in with her first husband

well my mom dosent like me at all, no matter what i do she always wants better, she also hates the way i look and thinks im a hidiuse monster

well my mom dosent like me at all, no matter what i do she always wants better, she also hates the way i look and thinks im a hidiuse monster