Mom in denial...

This is indeed shocking news for any parent to get and the first thing I urge you to do is to stay as calm as you can. She’s probably angry at your ‘carelessness’ and worried about your now-diminished chance of finishing high school and getting a good job. Throw in your own worries that she has somehow failed as a parent and you’ve got a recipe for parent-child conflict. Remember, though, that you are still her daughter, and she needs your love, support, and help now more than ever.”Girls who have been ‘psychologically’ forced to have an abortion or give a baby up for adoptions often become pregnant again soon after, ‘replacing’ the baby (and the decision) that was taken from them,” write Laurence Steinberg and Anne Levine, authors of “You and Your Adolescent.” This is her way of saying get an abortion. If that is not your religion, and you decide to go through with the pregnancy, understand that she will probably be asked to take on some of the physical, emotional, or financial care of her grandchild. As mature as you daughter may seem, the fact is that your still a child yourself. This needs to brought up in a conversation and talked about. I’m not sure what the abortion pretences are in your house but they need to be talked about. When you and her accept the way it’s going to happen than she will more than likely help to fulfill the agreement. YOU need to be the adult now, and I’m sure that’s what she wants you to do. She doesn’t think your “shy” anymore so don’t act innocent take the role of the woman and tell her how it is. Make the agreement that we will best for all 3 of you and get each other through it. If there is a dad in your life and he is being more cooperative than her talk to him first than talk to her and get his support. good luck!