Missing my mother?

Well, since I’ve been having family problems ever since I moved out, and I had to put a personal protection order against my father because he was doing allot of fondling, touching, ect, I’ve been wanting to speak to my mother again since I last spoke with her last winter. But, I’m afraid if I called her again, she might start being harsh with me. She knows I’m doing fine and going to college, but, I really miss talking to her. I want to call her to ask her how her health is and so forth, but, I don’t want her to bring up what my father did she claims he didn’t do any of the things he did back in 2005. Now that I ‘m 23 and living on my own, I still consider my mother fair when it comes to listening to her opinions. Even though I said harsh things about my family, I still love them and everything. They brought me here to the U.S. from China at age 5 turning 6, I’m greatful for that. I also have a disability which is a visual impairment and been blind since birth, I don’t let that get to me. But, I’ve been treated like a nobody as a teenager and part of my young adult life until I moved out. Even though my mother favors one of my sisters, I still love her. Should I have the courage to call her? or wait? I really miss her and I’ve been thinking about her lately. If you all could give me some feedback as to how to deal with this, I’d greatly appreciate it. Thanks

Answer #1

CALL HER I bet shes wanting you tell call her everynight but than you end up not

if she brings up the father thing than thats one chance you might want to take.

Answer #2

theres a lot to get through, you very much should always let whom your feeling for know asap no matter what, if its important to “YOU” your self being and if you think this would comfort your mother beyond anything else, then you should just do what you feel is good and right and either ignore the other stuff or go through the whole disagreeing agreeing phase to be able to keep what you love and like in this life.

Answer #3

Call her and tell her that you’ve been thinking about her and that you love and miss her.

If she brings up the past in relation to your father, just explain that it is past and you would rather not have to rehash it.

Explain to her that you value talking with her and her opinions.

If she tends to be harsh, just grin and ignore it. She has her own problems that she deals with.

Good Luck!

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