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Me and my boyfriend

Me and my boyfriend have been dating for 10 months and tomorrow will be our 11 month anniversary. I met him when I was 13 and nvr saw him again till last summer and ill b turning 16 in 2 months and I truly believe I have found my true love. But constantly we fight and argue and my parents dont like him that much because of his race. He has is lazyy and nvr has money and im always the one paying for him. He isnt trying that hard to get a job but all the time he tells me he is going to get a job and pay for a ring so he can ask me to marry him =) and evry time we go to the mall im always paying for the food and such and he always says “ill pay you back” I’ve probably spent around 200 on him so far and that doesnt include the gifts I get him. For v- day he gav me a $20 gift card to some theatre I nvr go to and he only gav it to me cause some lady gav it to him! He also has a criminal record because he was arrested in december for possession. He doesnt even have his permit yet and hes been 16 for like3 months now and hes driving me crazzyy. Sometimes I dont know if im making the right decision. With all these negatives he does have some positives. He always makes me laugh even if im pissseedd at him. We lost our virginity to each other. He knows everythign about me and gets along with my autistic brother amazingly and loves my family and most of the fam like him too.. Wht do you think???

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Answer #1

Well you should try talking to him about him and telling him how what you think and feel. Tell him that you dont find it fair that you always have to pay, the you should each pay equal amounts. Also if you two want to get married hes going to need a job to be able to support you and your family if you decide to have one. With all his negatives its good you look at the positives but apparently the positives dont cancell out all those negatives. So im not saying you should change him but try and help him improve his negatives, like for example, if hes lazy find something fun to do that will get him up and moving that you two can do together. Also with his criminal record, its best to sometimes just forget the psat especailly if he doesnt do anything bad anymore. If he does confront him with it.

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Answer #2

Well I think you shud deffinitley tlk ta him!!! I mean there’s obviously love between you’d and although there’s lots of bad things there is also loads of good important stuff!! Don’t give up on him this is just a bumpy part in your relationship!! Talk to him about getting a job but you do have to keep in mind that its super hard to find a job these days!! Communication is what’s most important for a successful relationship!!

Answer #3

Well I think you shud deffinitley tlk ta him!!! I mean there’s obviously love between you’d and although there’s lots of bad things there is also loads of good important stuff!! Don’t give up on him this is just a bumpy part in your relationship!! Talk to him about getting a job but you do have to keep in mind that its super hard to find a job these days!! Communication is what’s most important for a successful relationship!!

Answer #4

sit him down and lay down the law. tell him he needs to get his lazy a$$ off the couch and get a job. let him know how annoying it is that you have to pay all the time. tell him how you really feel. seriously, that isn’t right that you have to be doing everything for him.. you don’t want to marry someone like that; someone whos completely dependent on you. lots of other guys can make you laugh. lots of other guys can get along with your brother. lots of other guys HAVE A JOB.

you see where I’m getting at here? tell him he needs to shape up or it’s over. nobody wants someone like that in their lives in the long-run. NOBODY.

Answer #5

well on the plus side his criminal record will disappear once he turns 18thinks or 19 depending where you live.. :)

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