My best friend and I like the same guy

Hiya, I’m 15 years old, and having some “guy issues”. Me and my best friend, had a little issue. Me and the guy were talking one day, and he was well, pretty flirty and all. When I told my friend I liked him, she told me he was her crush too. I was like, well okay, nothing bad is going to happen, were friends right? But, I noticed after awhile, Her and him became “closer”. I never knew they were super close and all, she didnt tell me when I said I liked him. When hes not around her, He’s flirting with me and smiling. But, when my friends near by, hes always avoiding me and giving me dirty looks. My friend got mad at me before, because I told him I liked him ( thats before I knew anything was happening between them). I just dont know what to do, me and her are GREATT friends, but the guy likes her apparently, and still flirts with me when shes not around. He hurts when he completely ignores me, just as a friend and all when shes around, and shes not happy that I like him, and I know it. even if she says she is. she told a girl I know she wasnt and that she was really pissed off because of it. I’m jsut really stuckkk, Hellppp meee!!!

Answer #1

Me and my bff had the same problem, but we talked it out and decided first come, first serve, we told each other that we would both talk to him and flirt with him, it was sort of a game, but you couldnt do that with just nebody, We would brag to each other when he talked or smiled or flirted with one of us. Its still kinda going on today lol. We are about tied in who he flirts with more. I really dont thank that either of us will ever actually go out with him though, but its fun. anyways if your friend is really that great of a friend she would understand that you like him as well, and that you should decide in which one of yall he likes more. GOOD LUCK! I HOPE THIS HELPED!!!

Answer #2

I went through the exact same thing when I was in junior high, but I was to young and ignorant to do anything about it. but if I were you I would confrant both of them at the exact same time and tell them both how you feel. and if your friend chooses him over you then, screw it get another GREATT friend, and a crush that actually likes you, and that doesn’t act brand new when yourguys are around certain people. good luck.

Answer #3

I have the exact same problem going on right now it started at lunch and I found out he likes my best friend better than me and neither of them want to lose me as a friend so I said to the boy “you can date her I don’t want to risk losing my two best friends because you can find love every day but friendships can last forever and I don’t wanna lose mine”

Beccy

Answer #4

ok…I have gone thorugh the sam thing but my friends ALWAYS come first. I let go of him and moved on because you dont want to ruin your friendship.

Answer #5

Well she seems really mean to you but my friend and I are going through the same thing but he likes her and every day they are going out again and I’m so sad and mad at the same time, I don’t know what to do and plus he lies about liking me and stuff just so that in the end he can make her happy but I think he actually likes me and is just trying to make me jealous.

Answer #6

Oh hun, If you guys like the same guy just think who has a better realtionship with this guy it’s a different story if he only liked one of you guys if he likes you both then you both back out and just be friends and talk it out. Because life is way to short and you don’t want to waste any time on this nonsense. so if shes your best friend I would just stick with her and stay COMPLETLY calm and it’ll be alright,, good luck!!

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