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I don’t know how to deal with these situations. what do you do if your best friend goes to a different school (for Gr. 9 of high school for education reasons) in the area and your second best friend stops talking to you as much because she has new friends so you want to give her space but you overhear her talking to one of her new friends (that she hasn’t been best friends with since grade 5 like she has with you) that she has a boyfriend and you didn’t even know she liked anyone? PS. She doesn’t even say hi to me in the hallways and never confronted me. I had told my friend who went to a different school about how our friend wasn’t talking to me about anything anymore and apparently they got into a fight and the friend that ditched me was mad at me for eavesdropping on her conversation bur she never said anything to me about it (for the record they were talking loud in a nearly empty and definitely quiet hallway and I didn’t purposely overhear). I texted her once during class because I was wanting to know what I did for her to completely stop talking to me and her phone went off and she didn’t even complain about it after (to me).
I also feel that I made a mistake going to my school because my friend who went to a different school went to go to the IB program for super smart kids and our teacher had also suggested that Ie go there because I’m pretty smart too but I was too lazy to do the paper work and figured I would have at least 1 friend (friend who ditched me) if I didn’t joint my best friend in the IB program, but like I said before, she ditched me so now because I have a hard time making friends I am a loner at high school (well not really but I don’t connect with anyone I hang out with and I’m pretty sure my presence annoys them. I don’t know anyone super popular but I hate to look like the loner I feel like so I hang around anyone I can.)
[i am going to use fake names to cover up identities] i went through this almost exact same experience when i was in the 8th grade. My best friend, April, went to a different school because of her daddy's job after 6th grade and so me and April's mutual friend, Candace, became best friends in the 7th grade, but me and April still kept in touch. In the 8th grade, everything all of a sudden started changing between me and Candace. She stopped talking to me after she had gotten into the popular group [we'll just call their little group Mean Girls] and when she saw me she would shoot me a look of pure hate and roll her eyes at me! But I still continued to follow her around, trying to mend our broken relationship! Someone started cyber-bullying me EVERYDAY and that really hurt my feelings back then. Candace continuously told me that she knew who was cyber-bullying me but she claimed that she couldn't tell me who it was because of the trust that she had developed with her new friends. Me and Candace's friendship had ended and i became sooooo depressed! I was alone at school with NO friends and EVERYDAY i would call April crying.
I became the class clown because I am naturally really funny and so I started making friends. Once Candace had seen me becoming so popular on my own, of course she wanted to get back into my life! Of course, being the dumb 8th grader that really missed my best friend, I forgave her and we became the bestest of friends EVER! If you looked at us today, you would have never guessed that we hated each other. We've been the bestest of friends for 5 years now. A few months ago, she confessed to me that she was the one that was cyber-bullying me and causing me to become depressed and I haven't been able to look at her the same ever since then. Even though it happened years ago when we were only kids, i almost ended our friendship because I couldn't believe that she was capable of causing me so much pain and misery!!!
But the best advice that I can give you is to just wait it out. It'll end soon, I promise. I thought there was no hope for me when I was going through this struggle, but there was! I utilized the talents that I had and I found a way out! And now, you can ask anybody, i'm one of the most popular girls in my high-school!
I'd first try talking to the friend that's mad at you and explain to her what you've said here. Just be honest with her, and if she doesn't forgive or doesn't start talking to you again, then forget about her because that's a pretty petty thing to get mad over in the first place and you don't deserve that. If she does forgive you or whatever, then that's great. Anyway, as far as making new friends, just try being friendly with people that you could see yourself potentially being friends with. Strike up conversations that you think they'd also be interested in. A lot of people struggle with making new friends, so you're definitely not alone. Maybe try getting involved in some clubs or activities to get to know people better, too. At least you still have your best friend to call when things get tough. Make sure not to lose touch with her because it's better to have one BEST friend that you can tell everything to, then a hundred "friends", in my opinion. Hope things work out okay!
