Lack of communication with my boyfriend

Iam in a serious relationship since 18 months. Im 20 and my boyfriend is 21. We know each other from school but our relationship started only when we went to different colleges. So its basically a long distance relationship, wid we being able to meet once in only 4 5 months. That too for a very short time . Say 3 4 hours. . But that doesnt matter because we stay in touch throught mis calls and sms all day.. I mean every 15 20 min we exchange a msg. Even if we are in class or lab, we manage to sneak out miss calls and msges.. I like it that we’re so much in touch..

But I feel that since a couple of months.. We ‘re not communicating well.. We talk a lot. But.. Im not able to satisfy him emotionally. he gets frustrated very quickly if I dont reply to his miss call or msg immediately. These days he’s doing his internship abroad. So we get to meet only online with my internship as well. Both of us have access to net only in office and lab. So its sometimes frustrating because we’re not able to give the time to each other.

I know one thing, and that is.. He loves me very very much. I can not imagine a future widout him. But lately, as I said, all the little things that I do for him, backfire.. And he feels hurt. And then im not able to convince him or something. I start crying and he melts seeing me crying and the fight is over for the day.. I dont touch the issue again but these little things have accumulated a lot.

Today was especially a bad day. I don’t know how to come close to him again and make him feel im his old little girl only..

Answer #1

thanks a lot… but since we are in different countries these days so its not possible to meet, and both of us wil go back to our respective colleges in different cities again. our schedules do not match at all. so meeting is absolutely out of the question…

yes I agree that this long distance thing Is getting on to him. But what should I do now.. Anything and everything I say is being taken in wrong light. we both are equally hurt with no one coming any closer..

Answer #2

No I dont agree that it is hard to wait. simply because I know he’s the right person for me. I can wait for him as long as he wants and I know that same is the case for him. and in any case, all we have to do Is wait only because we are still students and supported by parents. And there isn’t Any fear of a 3rd person as well.

yes everything wud b fine once we do get to meet. but these days whats happenning is he’s talkn to me a bit rudely (I’d say its because of work stress) ANd also because he’s angry with me. Maybe he’s also fed up with himself and wants to bring peace again in our relationship, but if it is, maybe he wants a bit of pampering from me and that no matter wha t he does, I’m with him only…

thats my prob actually.. it Is difficult to chat with a person who;s replying in ok ok and yes no answers. once I get him to talk properly.. everything wud b okay .. but thats a tuf job. guys dont get open up so quickly…

Answer #3

You may just have to keep in touch and move on. He may be interested in someone else who is closer. It is hard waiting forever and not even knowing if you will ever see someone again WHILE there are potential mates all around you. It is very hard and stressful. Your boyfriend is just feeling that stress. He will get over it once you meet again. Just keep in contact with him and show him you care. That is all you can do.

Answer #4

I feel bad for you because I am currently sort of in a long distance relationship. It can be hard but while you are apart you should really be focused on your education. Maybe try scheduling a time that you can see each other soon IF possible so all worries can melt away. It could be that the long distance thing is getting on his nerves and he is starting to forget how it is to physically be with you.

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