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I am leaving for college this sunday and I am leaving my b/f behind. I love him so very much and I know that he loves me just as much. I know that it is hurting him really bad to know that I am leaving. it is like making me not want to leave but we both know that I have to. I just do not want to lose him and I am scared that everything is going to change when I leave and it is going to get really hard. I am only like 3 hours away but that is still a long drive to make you know and I am staying in a dorm so he cant just come up there and stay with me. I am going to miss him so very much and it is just driving me crazy to know that I will not see him very often. I like want to spend as much time with him as I can you know and that is making me feel bad to because I am like leaving out my mom and dad you know. so I am just like screwed. lol I just need some incouragement (how ever you spell that) you know what I mean. it is hard to leave some one behind. especially me b/f. he has not always been the best kid ever you know. he was into to partying and drinking really bad but when we got together he has changed a lot and I know that it is for me. he is also really trying to stop smoking for me too. and the way that he looks aat me when I am leaving his house it just breaks me heart because it is as if I am leaving already. someone please help me out!

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Answer #1

In my experience hun long distance relationships are hard to work out, there is a slight possiblity that it may work but you must understand guys sneaky i dont know how long you have been with this guy but if i were in your position id go on a break and see other people… you are going to be in college hun… he is going to have his own life back where he is at… i know you dont want to hear that trust me I am in the same situation, but I broke up with my girlfriend because i am leaving for the military and I just feel it wouldnt work out, not only because of the distance, but because when you are away from someone for a long time your feeling kind of seperate, and you as a girl wouldnt understand this, but i know how guys are, and most of them arnt very trust worthy if they get an oppurtunity to get laid etc… I am not one to cheat thus this why i broke up with my girlfriend, because i’ll admit i do like sex and i dont feel id cheat if i were with her, but i dont want to be in the situation where i have a girlfriend and i have to worry that something may happen with her and someone else, or some chick may come on to me… its just a bad idea, and a lot of thinking about bad things that may happen… you only live once and why worry about these types of things?

Jason

Answer #2

thanks yea i think about that a lot too. like him going back to his old ways or him cheating on me because he couldnt handle it. and i may do the same thing. it is just hard. thanks for your advice though

Answer #3

Its hard to see what is going to happen or to tell yourself all this when you are in the relationship, because you are in what i like to call a “Relationship bubble” ie… you can’t see the problems that are happening or will happen until you step outside of the bubble or someone else looks at the situation … relationships just cloudy peoples visions and well it makes life complicated. I would really consider what i told you because with college and everything you don’t need this extra stress, and you know if it was ment to be, then you’ll end up living by each other someday… its not the end of the world. But trust me hun you are going to like a guy at college and its going to make things more difficult… and well you already have feelings that he may cheat so… its just something to consider…

take care Jason

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