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I am 13, and I feel I don't have much freedom.

Only makeup I can wear is lip gloss, and foundation on very special occasions.

I am finally allowed to shave, but don't regularly.

I have NEVER gone to a spa or done any of that - that means never a mani/pedi, massage, waxing.

Only thing I've gotten at a salon is a haircut and on very special occasions a blowout.

Can't dye my hair, not even get highlights.

I can only paint my nails clear or light pink.

My ears are already pierced, I got it when I was a couple of days old, as is the custom in my country.

I'm not allowed to have any sleepovers, and my parents get very paranoid about letting me stay home alone for a couple hours in the day or letting me go to my friends' houses (by the way, they are all girls, so I still don't get it).

I get good grades, save and invest my allowance money, and all that, but I still don't have any freedom, even as a small reward for everything.

And supposedly I'm allowed to date (because my mom had no freedom as a young teen), but I'm still scared to ask for anything because the answer to everything is always "no".

My parents just won't let me grow up - I can't even have a phone yet. :/