Is my boyfriend abusive?

This relationships has RED FLAGS written all over it, and this is why you need to get out. He isnt doing anything for your self confidence, or self esteem. Abuse is NOT loving behavior no matter how much he tells you he “loves”you. You are NOT the problem, HE IS! Its really hard to believe that he wasnt abusive towards his other ex’s. I think hes handing you a line. There is nothing you can do to change him, he has to recognize that he has a problem, and is willing to get help. Without that, his behavior will only get worse over time. If your loved one doesnt make you happy, or feel good about yourself, then its probably time to get out of this very unhealthy relationship.

I do rationalise myself saying things will change.. but I dotn know if they every will … I am not able to let go .. but just lookign at his face is even irritating for me… but he says he never was abusiv e with his past 2 girlfriend’s… which makes me feel like I am the one who is setting of his temper.. and he says so too. he says I have made his life miserable. and rest.. CONTENT SUPRESSED :( I am clueless.. but thanks a ton for your consolation.. I really needed it from yesterday ..after the hitting episode… I sometimes wis there was s oem oen who would make me feel confident, assured, m shatterd deep inside.. I have lost all my confidence.. everythjing.. :(

He is abusive. Break it up. No man should EVER put his hands on or even speak to a woman in any wrong way like that. End it. There’s plenty of other guys out there for you and you deserve way better. This is your first relationship? I’ve never been in one myself, but I can tell you from what I’ve seen, physical fights like this don’t happen in relationships. As soon as he put his hands on you or even called you a name you should have ended it. You’re NOT trash and you shouldn’t ever feel that way. Have you ever seen shows where women are in abusive relationships and they end up dying? Get out now while you can. ♥

This is a relationship set for disaster in my opinion. I think you should get out of this before it gets worse and you end up in the hospital. How can someone say they love you but then call you a wh*re and slap you?? Its not like you slap him right? He doesn’t have the right to touch you. You seriously need to have more respect for yourself because you DESERVE much much better. What you’re feeling for him isn’t love, its just the fact that you’re scared to leave him..right? Hes trying to make you feel like you’re the reason that he hits, but it isn’t…the only person at fault is the person hitting no ifs ands or buts and don’t you believe that for a second okay? If I were you ..I would pack my things and just leave when hes out. I know thats drastic but you have to make a statement, you’re not going to take this bull from him anymore. Don’t look back just know that you want better in your life and there are hundreds of guys out there that will give you better. He will probably call you like crazy and want to talk but limit talking to jsut the phone and try not to meet up for a while and just give it time. Don’t easily believe his apologies and tell him you want to break up…Breaking up is very very hard but you can do it…you must, think about your safety and what you deserve as a person. You deserve much much better. Best of luck

yeah , guys your right .. my mind knows that but my heart isnt letting me break up… we had a talk yesterday and he said he willl give an honest try not to hit me anymore and if at all it happens again he says I am free to go …we havent had a fight in two days… so I want to give one last chance,… is o wasnt this sorta person… I was a very confident .. self assured persn, but now I cant believe I want to give a person who is treatign em badly chances!!! neways.. guys just bethere for me… bcz I dont have any person here whom I can share things with .. and talking to you guys… although we are strangers in a way of speaking… makes me feel good.. cheers…keep posting your thoughts…