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It may seem like I ask a lot of questions on here but its becuase I haveno one totalk to them about soryy! , Theres this boy who I have known for a cuple of years now and has been a complete star to me, when I got kicked out my parents home he let me live at his mums with him, helped with money for my babies food , been there everyday through the pregnancy forme and labour, rings me everyday to check on me and my son and visits everyday, has on numerous times came to my flat in the middleof the night when I've been down and upset with dvds and chocolates etc for us to watch , I hardly had any money when I moved in and when I left for the hospital when I was in labour my flat had nothing but basics, kettle one chair and all my sons stuff and one bed! when I came back he fully furnished it with shelves, sofas , tv , bought my son a cot and a pushchair , curtains etc to make it feel soo homely, hes AMAZING! I think I've fallen for him though and think he feels the same, he is not my sons godfather by law, is it ok for us to be together or do you think its wrong? I dont want to mess with my sons head. pleasehelp me x
If you feel something for this guy and he feels the same way about you then there is nothing wrong it. Your son is young enough that he won't remember if it doesn't work out but to not give it a try might be a big mistake. There are so many men out there that make babies and walk away and to truly find one that wants to be a daddy is a great thing. Don't let him go if you have feelings for him. You're lucky, a lot of girls in this situation never find a guy that will treat their child as their own.
Good luck and congratulations on your beautiful little boy :
If he is in your sons life, doing dad like stuff. Then he is the dad of the baby. you know that old quote "anyone can be a father but only some people get to be a dad" Parents are who takes care of the child. Sounds to me like your child wouldn't strain on it. I'm not sure how old he is but, if he is old enough to ask him if he would mind. Then do so. I don't think it's wrong to be together. I'm not sure were you got that Idea. Just make sure that you like the guy know you like him other wise it might get messy.
Good Luck God Bless
It's ok. But, u can't just pretend he's daddy. Give him a chance, and if yall work out, when the baby is older he can decide if that's his "daddy". I have a 2 bout to b 3 yr old, and she calls my b/f dad, but we all still refer to him by his name. After trying for so long to tell her he's not her dad, we all got kinda tired of it. But u can't live every aspect of ur life for ur child. Just don't bring every potential one home.
thanks colethky, the only thing thats stopping me is that if it doesnt work out and we fall out that he dissappears out of my sons life, he has been there EVERYDAY without fail to visit my son and they have a great bond! altohugh he says even if we werent talking he wouldnt turn his back on my son as he has got a real bond with him like he is his own!
My sons only 6months old and I have been criticised a lot becuase im only 16, but he always stands up for me and does anything for my son e.g gets up 2 feed him in the night when he stays over , makes his bottles and changes him, Thanks for your view though, I just want to know how others see it becuase I dont want to jump in at the deep end :(
id get with him
make a family
pretend hes the dad
will be a happy ending 4 every1 (: x