I have always been really busy. I constantly run around to do the various things I am involved in, such as tennis, school, choir, band, and volunteering. Of course, I also have to spend time with my family, which cuts out even more of my time. With all these things I am involved in, it often becomes hard to have a social life in and genuinely close friends. I rarely spend time with the friends I have, and I feel like we drift apart often. This is simply because our schedules simply don't match up. I try to spend time with them as much as I can, but occasions like that are often cut short by our individual time constraints. Most of the time, when I do spend time with people, it is my boyfriend who kind of just does whatever I have to with me. No one else really makes an effort. Do you think my full plate is affecting my life negatively, despite all the positives these things bring? I value all things I participate in equally, and have no idea what to do to fix this!!
I can resonate with you. I generally work 6 to 7 to 8 hours a day on my material as I have plans on getting a robust business started soon in a few years. When there is school, there is little time to cram anything else in as I am usually left with about 2 to 4 hours to sleep and recuperate. But what I have done is, I have deprioritized most of my social circle and left myself with two people (Tyler and Seizer) who share the same goals as I do and have the same interests as I have. We work together as a team and are really close to each other. . 1. If your social circle is too big, it'll be a distraction sapping at your effectiveness and sharpness in whatever art you are into. You need to let go of most of them - that doesn't mean cutting them out but just reducing contact to the point where it becomes normal for them and you to be occasionally hanging out with each other instead of frequently doing so. . 2. Also, if you are FORCING yourself to be spending time with your friends, you're doing it wrong. You'll not be present and will not enjoy your time with them. . 3. It's not the quantity but the quality of your friends that really matters. Choose your top 5 best friends with whom you feel the most connected to and just worry about spending quality time with them. . 4. I wouldn't recommend you cut out any of the arts you are practicing - if you enjoy doing them. However, if you lack a passion for any of them and it is becoming a boring burden for you instead of an engaging endeavor - it'd be better on yourself for you to let go of it. . P.S: A well known saying is, 'you become the average of the five people you surround yourself the most with'. So, I recommend you also keep in mind to select the people in your top 5 if their interests align with yours.
Every time you fly the flight attendant reminds you that in the advent of sudden cabin depressurization that oxygen masks will drop and that you should put your own mask on first before assisting other passengers. If you pass out from hypoxia you won't be able to help anyone. Life is a lot like that too. You have to take care of your own needs because if you aren't OK you won't be much good to anyone else. Everyone is busy; responsibilities at work only grow, family life only gets more complicated, and sometimes it seems like the entire world is falling apart. Things pull you on all directions and if you let them they will stretch you so thin that you won't have anything left for yourself. If you keep taking time and energy away from yourself to meet other people's expectations you will end up disappointing everyone including yourself. Sometimes you have to put yourself first and doing so will benefit not only you but also the people who rely on you.
I don't think that will have a negative impact in your life considering that you are doing worthwhile things. You are in the prime of your life, where you are planting seeds, so you can harvest in the future. Regarding your relationships with your friends, you can try to find time where you can go out and hang out with them. You can also use texting or social media sites to update them about what's going on. Despite the distance or schedules, real friends will always find time to nurture the relationship, it may not be as regular as before, but I believe your special bonding will always stay there.
Thanks, I only really have like two friends as it is.. So I am really only interested in maintaining with them but that is hard enough...
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Thanks. :) I just feel like perhaps if I don't spend time with them I could get replaced... :/