I LOVE MY bf but hes the romantic type. I HATE when he gets me flowers, or kisses me alot. i am showing him signs that i dont like him by distracting him when he gets "comfy" and i am freaking out its pissing him off. He told me if i love him and i just nodded after 7 seconds and couldnt say yes. but he doesnt understand i am not that type. Me and my dad and brothers HARDLY talk. i never really felt close to a guy before. I love this guy but when he talks about marriage i get mad and just dont believe in marriage and when he gets to close to me and talks alot it drives ME INSANE. i hate myself cause if he were to break up with me i will literally die:( he told me today "you know what, dont waste your time if u dont want to be with me. i explained to him marriage and romance isnt me. he said i only think about myself. hes been mad for 2 days.
I agree with the earlier comments, if I don't want to lose him, you should do your part, as well. Your bf is trying his best to save the relationship but you are pushing him away because of your personal issues. If you have the courage to talk to him, the same thing on which how you explain things to us, he will surely understand you and help you overcome this fear. I know it may really be hard for you at first, considering it is not the kind of environment which you were exposed to. But maybe, this is your opportunity, God is allowing you to meet a very loving person, so you can see the other things, which you haven't experience. Be open to it. Changes may not be abrupt, but in time, you will get used to it. Hope things will be better for both of you, you love him so nurture the relationship. Love is always a two-way street. He needs love and care as much as you do, even if you don't show it that much. Hope you won't see this as judging your character but this is an advice which you are trying to seek.
You need to talk to him explain everything tell him you love him, and you need to be a little less harsh when he shows you affection. But talk, you two need to work out some sort of a compromise, either you get used to it, or he gets used to little affection, or perhaps you both can find a middle ground, him being allowed to do somethings and less of other things. Either way, you constantly pushing him away and rejecting him like that will eventually push him away. Honestly, from the sounds of it, and your previous questions, it doesn't seem like the two of you are very compatible despite what you might feel for him. But of course, I'm not actually in the relationship so I could be very wrong. But regardless,you two are in need of a talk and compromise.
Ummm marriage is a bit too soon to be talking about.
But you need to stop acting rude to him if he's trying to show you affection. If he buys you flowers don't get angry.
You obviously have no problem telling us that you love him so why do you have a problem telling him?
Based on your other posts it seems like you really like having drama in your life...
Lol. It's not about judging, it's about showing you a different perspective so maybe you can save your relationship.
You should probably take it as constructive criticism not a judgment. She does present some valid points.
based on ur post blah blah..i didnt ask u to judge me based on my post #^**^!!