I have a boyfriend... ive been dating for 2 months. Hes nice, loves me, but always just talks about video games... thats not an excuse, though. Anyways, so i met this girl over a month ago, and about a week or 2 ago, she admitted she likes me. I'm bisexual. When we text and call, it makes me happy. I think i like her. But when we hang out in person, im so nervous around her.. and I feel guilty because of my bf. I like her, I love my bf. I could see myself loving her. Shes adventerous... and i love that. Spontaneous. But i cant see myself without my guy.... Why am i feeling this way? I hate it :( What do i do?
Communication is one of the most important aspects of any relationship. To be fair, you need to have a conversation with your bf first to see if you can fix what's wrong with your relationship with him. If, within one month, you find that nothing's different, then you can pursue a relationship with this girl. Of course, that also means that you will need to break off your relationship with your bf before you start dating this girl because that's only fair and to do otherwise would be cheating. Threesomes only work for a short period of time before jealousies develop, so I wouldn't even consider that. The mere fact that you are even entertaining romantic thoughts about this girl means that there's something seriously bothering you about your relationship with this guy. People who are satisfied or happy with their current situation don't think about doing something else with someone else.
Well the way you explained your situation, it seems like you just have a small crush on the girl and that you arent willing to leave ur guy. If thats it, then i suggest you spend more time with your bf and talk about fun things. If he talks about video games only, u could just hint that you dont really find it all that interesting. Instead, you guys could try playing video games or do something else and spend more time together. Keep yourself at a distance from the girl. Be good friends with her but if you arent willing to leave ur boyfriend, dont do anything that'll make her think you like her too and give her false hope. As i said, you should spend more time with your bf and if it goes on like this for a really long time, you should once think it over if you really like your bf more or this girl more.
How long is your relationship with your BF going to last if you have little in common? If it is just a physical attraction thing than this only gets you by so far. Do you have an understanding with your BF that you are exclusively seeing each other? Or is this just something you assume? If you haven't promised to only be with your BF than go ahead and date the girl you like. If you have promised your BF not to see anyone else than you either have to end your relationship with your BF or keep seeing your BF and make it clear to the girl you like that you are off limits for now anyway.
I think it would be better to talk about this with your boyfriend. if he doesnt care about your feelings for the girl that you like, then you can have a boyfriend and a girlfriend at the same time. you think im kidding now maybe but actually im serious. if its ok for both of them then you can be in a relationship with both of them at the same time. so you wouldnt have to choose one of them and feel sorry for the other one...
You should stick with your BOYFRIEND, that's the natural attraction you should have, try just having this female as a close friend.
Ménage à trois, with one guy and two girls: The ultimate fantasy for most rampant hetero guys.