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Well, my boyfriend and I have been together for almost 4 months and according to him, he doesnt see any problems existing between us, too. And to be honest, Im not a jealous person, he went to prom with his ex and I didnt have a problem with it and I picked out the tux for him to wear...but there is only this one girl who always makes me worry because she would ask him to dance in front of me and they talk to each other online and in person A LOT recently and I sent him a really serious message and he showed it to her...actually I do have the intuition that there must be something going on but he didnt want to admit it =( I talked to him about it because I didnt feel good while watching them dancing together and its because I met him at a party and dancing brought us together so it's kinda like our thing, it was really hard for me...and I didnt act immature or anything, I just told him how I felt and I didnt demand anything, but Im expecting him to show some respect at least, back off a little bit, but he didnt he danced with her again tonight *(well we had two parties consecutively lol_) and which really pissed me off...because she was flirting with one of my friends like a month ago and his girlfriend got SUPER jealous, worse than I did, so my friend backed off, I mean he has been avoiding her...and Im feeling like crap why can my boyfriend do the same thing...What should I do...I dont want to yell at him or anything, should we talk about it and have a long conversation but I already did...what else should I say?
Hes just not respecting you OR your relationship! There isnt ANY reason why an ex would still have to be a part of his life, ESPECIALLY when hes already involved with someone else! Why didnt YOU go to his prom? And why would you allow him to go with his ex? Because you wanted to make HIM happy so he would think you were the best girlfriend? You are only setting yourself up to eventually get hurt. You cant control his behavior, but you can control your own behavior and stand for how you want to be treated. He will either fit your criteria or he wont - either way, youll be doing right by yourself. As long as you keep your sights set on the relationship you want, you will find it - whether its with this guy or not.
And it's worse that Im always putting up with him...at the beginning I was being understanding and generous...but I think he's taking advantage of that...what made me really pissed off was that one of his best friend liked me and now we are really good friends now...after he found out his friend liked me he told me about it so I kinda backed off a bit...before we used to talke everyday and he would text me at 3 in the morning and now we only talk like once or twice a week because of my boyfriend...shouldnt he have done the same thing after I told him about how I felt.?
Thank you so much for the advice =) Well it was actually her prom and she didnt have a prom date so she asked him to go with her. I didnt really mind that, but now I think about it, I guess you were right, Im setting things up for myself to get hurt =(
I felt so aweful yesterday, I walked into the room, and they were dancing...I was there staring for 15 seconds, I tried to pretend that it didnt affect me but I just couldnt...it was harder than I thought it would be...so I escaped...I literally ran out of the room.
