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I agree 100%...I learned the hard way...I tried to keep in touch with everyone yet saw no one every trying to call me to see what was up with me...it wasnt just friends it was family & family friends kids that I grew up with... People are people...once they leave your inner circle & go onto college they usually leave their old friends behind. I can say that I was popular at school there wasnt a day that went by that i wasnt either hugging or kissing someone in the halls in between classes...but once you get older things do change. Everyone gets caught up with their own issues...family getting older, more needy & you find yourself surrounded by your parents that may also need you more & then you have to find a job to help support the family & a significant other that you be attracted to...and even your best friends tend to pull away having their own issues...you get hurt...you find out whom your real friends are & those you can really depend on. Facts of life hun! Finally you wind up settling down, having kids...and then getting more involved in their friends & parents life & those become your friends...or at your job...you never know whom you may click with & whom you dont... My best friend & I were friends from work...she worked in one store & i worked in another in the same mall but met in a groc store while getting smth to drink...and we clicked & became best friends for over 10 years...after over 10 years i finally saw her true colors & over the smallest stupidest things. Cant cry over spilled milk...Friends will come & go in your life...just keep finding the ones that you can really feel a connection with & when it's done with move on. Its all you can do!
I honestly dont see this as a problem. You've learned something at a young age that most people dont learn until they are much older. Ask the other adults on this site how many "real friends" they have, i promise most dont have more than a handful. The sad fact is, people arent perfect and alot of them will let you down. The older you get the more you realize who is true friend and who are just aquaintences. When your life gets busy with a marriage and kids, all you so called friends from highschool tend to disapeer. Its normal though. Im 25 years old and i have 2 real friends, and i wouldnt have it any other way.
Also agree. I only talk to 2 -3 people I know from high school on a regular basis. I'm lucky enough to have a friend I have known since I was 5, but even then our relationship has change over the years. I bought a house, he inherited all of his dads estate. We both lead busy lives now and our friendship has changed with it. I still consider him a brother in all but blood, and luckily through all that has changed in both our lives we are still bets friends. But just about all the people I considered friends during school walked out of my life when high school ended.
i know its not a bad thing but yall are talking about after everything , im talking about now i see girls going out having fun and social events kinda stress me out because i feel awkward . i dont care about having real friends i just want to have like a group of people i can hang out with laugh and do fun stuff with ..... but my problem is that i havae to loosen up alittle bit ....... i dont know im confused lol ..
just relax & have fun when at a social gathering. Look around the room, if you notice someone looking at you say hi...start a convo can even be something funny. Allow yourself to simply be yourself. I am sure you'll find your way in no time. And no matter what always smile. :)
good luck.
That's actually not a bad thing to do because fake people can really do wrong. but are you always 100 percent sure that someone is fake just because of one thing they did? maybe it was a mistake. try really getting to know people before deciding on whether they're a good person or not.
It's not bad. Why would you want a friend that will just lie and act different and does who knows what because she is fake? Find people of your intrest, you don't need to be friends with everyone to not be antisotial, all you need to do is find your good,true friends and live it up :)
yeah but it just leaves me with 2 friends and they arent good friends ............... i want to have fun with 'friends' and i dont know how , what to say how to start a conversation with a stranger i kinda need to lossen up ..........
That's where getting to know someone comes in. When i really get to know a person, i become more comfortable with them. then we can talk about ANYTHING. and trust me, that's when it starts getting fun.
I def understand that...people simply part after a while...you just find diff interests & arent on the same page anymore...it's a shame but a reality! oh well! :(
Well I wud push people away that r fake to, it cuts down on how many friends you have but at least the ones you do have will be real
yeah but HOW do you become comfortable with someone you dont know ? ...
maybe your just trying to be friends with the wrong people.
