im 15 and wanted a baby since I was 13 I have been with my boyfriend over a year and we have had sex once without any contraception we were bot planning for a baby and I did not end up pregnant , my boyfriend is 17 he wants kids with me but not till we are older I no he is right about this and I have been trying to change my mind by watching things like underage ad pregnant I have stopped watching it because it makes me want a baby even more , 1 cous I want to show how mature I am by having a baby and being able to cope with it all and 2 to prove to my mum that my boyfriend as he has said himself will stay wiithh me ,,
, mature responses please
1 cous I want to show how mature I am by having a baby and being able to cope with it all. By this reason, you are not mature. You want to have a baby to prove something, for yourself. How do you think that's fair to anyone that you bring into this world? And what if you can't cope? There are people older and more experienced than you that are pulling out their hair and you think you can handle it at 15? And school, and relationships, and bills? I don't think so, a baby isn't a couple of hour thing, its forever. And I'm willing to bet you've been wanting a baby because they are adorable. you ready to give up your life for one? Because thats what you do, from the minute you find out your pregnant to the minute they move out (and very often longer) they are your priority. Not your friends, your boyfriend or ANYTHING else.
2 to prove to my mum that my boyfriend as he has said himself will stay wiithh me ,, 'He said' ? Hun, people have it in wedding vows and law and they still break up. Because he feels that way now means NOTHING. In a week, or a month maybe even a year, he could completely change his mind and if he does, what are you gonna do? No money, no boyfriend, your parents aren't gonna be to happy and your gonna be stuck with a baby you weren't ready to have. And that never goes away, so wait and make sure your in a place where you can handle it economically, and emotionally. Whats the harm in waiting? You can only get more prepared, but you cant ever take it back.
-Cost of labour and delivery: $9,000 (with no complications) -Cost of raising a baby for 1 year: $10,000 min. (that's $180,000 by the time that child can leave home) -Cost of raising a baby for just 1 month: $400 and more -Infant medical bills for one year: up to $6,000 -Years it takes to completely restore your individuality (or, how many years you are responsible for this child): 18 -Current unemployment rate: 9.7 -Average welfare income for you and your child: $800 (that means you only have $400 left for rent, food, bills, personal items, etc...and that's if the baby doesn't get sick that month) -Chance of dropping out of school while pregnant: 70% -Odds of getting a job without a high school diploma: less than 50% -Chances of ending up a single teen mother (because the father leaves, even after promising to stay): 80%
...are you really sure?
Part of being responsible enough to be a parent is waiting until you are financially ready for a baby. Being that you aren't it is a big proof of immaturity not the other way around. Any why would you want your baby to suffer? Don't you want to wait until you can give your child a wonderful life instead of one where you just scrape by and are always hurting for money? And if your going to have a child the best way is always in a marriage where the dad just can't up and leave you like 80% end up doing. A 17 year old boy is not going to want to settle down and have children, he is going to want to continue on with his life, there is such a slim chance of him staying behind and helping you out.
In all honesty you need to wait.
I'm nearly fifteen and I think that the reasons you want a baby are wrong. You want a baby to prove yopu can cope and to prove your mom wrong, these aren't the right reasons. Babies are forever you want to bring a life into the world but your're only fifteen you have your whole life ahead of you, you will regret having a baby that young you won't be able to go out with friends' you won't be able to have fun. Babies take a lot of maintanence you will need to get a job and care for your baby you won't be able to study, you'll end up stacking supermarket shelves for the rest of your life. Think before you do anything stupid don't just think about yourself think about the baby you want to bring into the world.
Ahh same... im glad there is someone elts like me :) im almost 15 and I have wanted a baby ever since I was young and I have tried for one :) and watching underage and pregnant makes me want one more aswell :P but you really gotta think of yurself first babe because you are not going to be able to look after yourself let alone a baby. but as all my friends say if you want to Fu*k your life up then have a baby but it doesnt get you anywhere xxx :)
I think you shud wait till you leave school first because then you got a future ahead of you xxx
In my opinion the point that you want a baby right now clearly shows you are NOT mature.
I'm 24 and want such a good life for my child that I'm STILL waiting until I'm in a stable relationship (together for 5 years) and in a stable career with a home.
and even by that point, I'll probably adopt.
Remember that you're human - maybe it's your instinct to have a child right now - but remember that you also have a choice to not mindlessly reproduce like a rabbit.
xox Sika
if you want a baby then you should start getting experience by babysitting or maybe volunteering @ a local school or organization to help out with young children. you should also just concentrate on completing HS and going to a good college. u don't know how a relationship with this boy is gonna turn out and if u had a baby u could end up stuck with someone you don't actually love for the next eighteen years.
Guys and dolls , thank you all for your answeres , I have decided that because of reading each and every answere over and over I am going to wait ! , wait till I get a stable relationship that has lasted well over a few years , and finish school to try and get the grades I want , as well as get the good job , xx THANK YOU ALL FOR YOUR HELP , YUU ARE REALLY GOOD PEOPLE xxx xxx
Dawn xxx
1 cous I want to show how mature I am by having a baby and being able to cope with it all
That is one of the most selfish and immature reasons I've ever heard.
2 to prove to my mum that my boyfriend as he has said himself will stay wiithh me
...yet ANOTHER bad reason. Having a baby is not proof of maturity, nor is it proof of fidelity.
Do yourself a favor if you can stomach the site of a women giving birth, then you can consider it. And I mean actually go and visit the hospital and see what natural birth is like and ask some mother how long it takes to recover afterwords.
I saw it and it put me of children.
sometimes you cant get over things because I was wanting a baby when I was 15 and now im 19 and pregnant. l wish I could of wanted longer because baby are not toys they your like us but expensive and lots more. and finish school thats one thing you really need to do. BYE
This is so stupid.
You shouldn't have had sex at such a young age.
And you shouldn't have any children until you're married and out of college.
Don't screw up your life, as well as your family's and potential child's life, by wanting to have children so early.
maybe it just takes time to get over these things ??? and your advice its helping a bit but it sux cous I still want a baby I no they are expensive and I would never dream of dropping out of school or work for that matter :S oh god help me x
I couldn't have said it better myself. If you just wait a couple more years, just think of the great life you could have raising a child. You will have a job and be able to support that child. Finish school
Please wait so that you can give youur child the life that he or she deserves. Don;t you want to be able to give your child everything it wants and needs?
All in good time my child...all in good time...Just wait untill your old enough your gonna be the best mother your child ever had (:-)
Do not have a child you cant even support it at 15
