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I make myself miserable.

Why do I make myself miserable? I do things that I NO will depress me, I listen to certain songs that I NO will bring down my mood..why do I do this to myself? I feel like I’ve turned into succchhh a miserable negative person. I act happy, but I feel like I’m rotting inside…like I’m dead inside..I just wanna be happy and I’m realizing that Im the only thing holding me back from happiness..I dont feel like people understand me (I no everyone says that) I feel soo completely alone and down all the time..Idunno what to do anymore..schools starting up again and im scared that the same thing that happened last years gunna happen again which us imna isolate myself from everyone, I’m not gunna even TRY to make friends and I’m not gunna make an effort in school. Im rarely EVER let out of my house due to my mom being extremly strict and over protective…I can’t help being the way that I am. What can I do to become a happier person?

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Answer #1

The important thing is that you realize you have this problem.

The reality of it is that some people just tend to find comfort in misery. You have to break through that.

Make it a goal that by the end of this school year, you will be a happy person who people like being around.

You won’t be able to change everything all at once…take baby steps. For example, when you go to bed tonight, tell yourself that when you wake up tomorrow morning you are going to try and see things in a more positive light. If you fail, no problem…there’s another day ahead to try again.

You’ve spent a long time building up these walls around you, and it’s going to take time to be able to knock them all down - don’t expect great changes all at once. All you have to do, is make it through one day at a time…

~Today is a good day…and if it’s not a good day, I’ll make it a good day because my happiness is more important than anything else in this moment.~

Answer #2

You sound like you may have depression go to the doctor and explain he may be able to help ,

Answer #3

The answer is simple and easier than you think: People become miserable, unhappy or depressed when they are living mostly for them selves, or are focused on their own problems. And yeah, music can definitely make things worse.

So forget doctors or pills. The more we focus on others, the happier we become. It’s hard at first to make the switch, but it is possible. Find some one with a small problem, and (with out making it worse) try to help them. Keep it simple - a word of encouragement or a small gesture, like help an old person with a chore, hold a baby for a few minutes for a new but tired mother, tell a dad he’s inspiring because he keeps working for his family - I don’t know, every one needs some thing.

Sounds cheesy, pollyanna, life’s a bowl of cherries, I know, I know, but try it, it won’t kill you. And you’ll be amazed at how good YOU feel.

Stop focusing on you so much. You’re problems won’t go away, but they won’t seem so big any more.

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