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me and my boyfriend of 13month have just broke up, I keep crying I dont want to eat because I feel sick,,,but even worse we ended it badly and will probly never speak or see each other again! as he is at skewl and im at college and we dont live near each other! I dont think ther is any chance at all of us gettin back 2geva he made that clear when we spoke! but I love him so much seriously I just cant manage without him and it sounds so stupid but its true I need to get over this asap!!!
Hi Dear,
I will tell you what to do from my experience.
First you have to know if there any possibility to be together again (not just from your side but from his side too). If you think that the last fight you had wasn't the ending so fight for your love. BUT and I say BUT if you felt that he's not going back to you even 1% so you have to forget or you'll be a SLAVE for your lover.
I know it's very easy to say FORGET and it's not that easy to forget, well it's life and it's the heart that give us this very sad feeling, but we can't change it.
You going to say what I do? Listen, there is just one solution for your feelings and you're not going to like it at all. it's 1 word it's: TIME,
Only the time can let us forget our love and our partner. it takes from 2 months to 5 years and sometimes more. it depends on how much your relationship was strong.
I know you're saying right now "it's bullshit, I can't lose my boyfriend" but it's reality, and always know that you're not the only one. It happened to all of us.
I know that you're going to think about him everyday especially when you are alone. You going to listen to romantic music and think about him. You're going to keep thinking why he left me? no I think he still in love with me, He said that he loves me, he can't leave me like that and more and more shitty stuff going to come in your life especially when you are sleeping in a rainy day alone, or on valentine occasion or new year etc, his image is going to cross always your thoughts and your mind. You going to have this sadness in your heart and this grugling in your belly, it's hard I know.
Ideas to pass the TIME ( I Call this period the hell, but the window for a shiny day)
-If you are alone and you can't stop thinking about him, JUST CRY from the bottom of your heart, it helps a lot because all the feelings that you have inside you will go in your tears especially if you are a sensitive person.
-Getting drunk it helps but not for long time and I don't recomend it
-try to be always with someone, friends, sister, brother, mom, so you won't think a lot about him.
-try to go out with your friends and let them know what happened to you, so they help you to forget, and even sometimes they try to push you in another relationship (sometimes it's good, sometimes not)
-Don't go to places where you had memories with him
-don't keep any picture for him or you together on your desk or wallet etc. put it in a box or throw it.
-Don't look at yourself like a looser or a girl that she lost her life, but keep thinking always that you had a relationship for experience so you won't have the same mistakes (if you had).
-If you lucky you'll fall in love again with somebody else. It helps a lot and it's the easiest way to forget. BUT BUT BUT don't try to find a partner just to forget, because in this case you're not going to forget and in the same time you're going to break your partner heart. So let it be normal and don't play on it.
I had the same experience from 8 years ago and I never imagined that I can forget my girlfriend. But I did because I'm married now and I love my wife. When I look back to the stories that I had in my life and they are more than 1, all what I have on my face is "a smile"
good luck and stay in touch
Aww I'm so sorry and it will get better everything happens for a reason. I know how I'd feel if my boyfriend ( 7 days it will be 5 months ) and I broke up. Plus my friend sam her boyfriend broke up with her for a cheerhead but she's got a new boyfriend reece and there doing good they had gone out like 5 months and 5 days.. Just let your feelings out now because it's not good to bottle up inside try eating and sleeping and exercing as you normally did aviod seeing touching anyplace he was or what would remind you of him. I hope your heart gets mended. ~Erin~
You have to make yourself forget about him
tell yourself your fine without him. You are
be strong!
be proud of your independence!
women are strong and he's not the right one
the right one will come one day
make yourself eat! salad and fruit is the easiest when you dont feel like anything
make sure you get outdoors and see friends - otherwise u'll get stuck min a rut
Try to find someone else who will be with you and love you. There's always someone out there who can help you. If you can't be with someone else, try finding a hobby or reading a book that can keep your mind off him. Also, talk to someone you know and trust. They can help you get through it.
me and my boyfriend broke up a while ago, we were together for 6 months so I know how yu feel. but yu have to eat like...dont let him make yu all depressed just get out there and flirt! yu'll find someone =]
OVERTHENET
thanks your answer eally helped,,, he rang me last night and asked me to go to his house I did,,,and we talked-for a long time its all good :) xx
