if you hate your mom then she more than Likely loves you. There is this thing called the theory of mind where people’s ideas about their own and others’ mental sates, about their feelings, perceptions, and thoughts, and behavior it might predict. You have entered a period of Identity versus role confusion. Teenagers work at reefing a sense of self by testing roles and then integrating them to form a single identity, or they become confused about who they are. The later is you. It’s just a phase and you will get over it but the fact that you are testing the water shows a bit of knowledge on your part. What you need to do is write down all the things you hate about your mom and then tell yourself no this is good because ….. it WILL be hard at first but when you do it more often you will see that she is shaping your personality, and hopefully it is a good one, and you will appreciate it kin your latter life when your friends are in jail/pregnant and you’re in college. Good luck.
just calm down and when you are all calmed down, talk to her in a calm voice and use your best manners to her and tell her how you feel!
...grow up and realize in a few years that you DON'T hate her...