What if my friend is dating my ex, who I still like?

If he still has feelings you, then why is he with someone else?

What made you break up in the first place? If the love is strong, then why did it end? What makes you think that it’ll work the second time around? This usually happens when there has not been closure, and both parties’ confidence of being single is low. Afraid of being alone is one of the reasons why people get back together. But statistically, how often does it work out?

The same problems will return, repetitive old patterns, do you know how to handle it when it happens yet again? IF, you have a genuine feelings for the other person, and you have a master plan to deal with issues, differently in the future, then it might work, but more often than not, you’re gonna hit a brick wall again.

Don’t let your emotions take control, as it’s tough to think rationally when you communicate with your ex. You’ll be flooded with emotions that’ll cloud your judgment. Resist it.

Don’t forget why you broke up in the first place. Sure, you may have regrets now, but it’s not gonna make any pet peeves or conflicts go away. It helps if you write a detailed list of your ex’s qualities - positive and negative. And then, draw out what contributions you feel that each of you made to fail it. Has these issues really been resolved?

The final decision is down to you, but you need to ensure that it does not follow the pattern of the first failed relationship.