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I am thirteen and want a baby I know this will sound sooo stupid and I have asked this type of question before but I will add a little more detail of my reasons now, so I have this desiese that gives me eggs now be my overies are dieing and I cant save (freeze) the eggs their to frail without my body and I know I could adopt or use egg doners but I really always have wanted my own baby plzzz help me.
You Damn kids are CRAZY, Why are you going to throw you whole life away just because you want a baby.I am 27yrs old and Married and have 2 little girls I had my 1st daughter at 21 ok. Did you hear me 27 years old. Do you know the reponsibility you have when you have a kid. 1st you dont know if you are going to have a healthy child and if you do great. But you dont know your boyfriends full family medical background and your own maybe his great great grandmother may had have family with disablilities they do skip generations. Your friends you thought were you friends are slowly going to start to disapear because no mother wants there daughter to be around infulence like you. You wont be able to go to parties because you are home either with a sick baby or b/c you have no money, or no one to take care of your baby, But at your age you will have to drop out of school wont be able to graduate go to prom, continue to go to college because you have to take care of the baby and no one at your age is going to give you a good paying job, expecially now that we are on resession, and 99% of the jobs require at least a high school Diploma to work at a super market and to clean toilets. You think that baby food, diapers, medicine, clothes, shoes, are cheap. your baby grows and the shoes and clothes you bought when the baby was 1 month old dont think they are going fit when the baby is 3 months old. babies are expensive and they are not toys, or trophy. babies do get sick and if you have no insurance get ready for the phat medical bill. and once your babydaddy sees how hard it is to raise a baby and how much attention you need to give them trust me HUNNy he is going to RUN. and dont think that the Boyfriend you have is going to marry you because he loves you and that is if he even stays with you . You are to young to be having sex and if I was your mom and I hear you constantly telling me you want a baby it will be 2 choice let you have the baby with no help at all good luck send you to an all girl school. If I were you think really hard how your life could be at 13 with a baby and no man or job and no eduation .
Okay, all these people are telling you no, I'm going to tell you to make your own choice. I am 16 years old, my name is Haleigh, and I have a 4 month old daughter, named Zola. I AM a teenager, and I AM a mother. So, let me tell you a little about my life: 1) I don't party. 2) I don't drink. 3) I don't go out with friends. 4) I no longer have sex. 5) I go to school, I'm finishing my sophomore year right now, I have an A in all 4 classes. 6) I feed her in the middle of the night. 7) I miss a lot of things;
BUT: when you have a baby as a teenager, these are things that you do. You won't mind not being able to party, because you'll be spending those long hours with your beautiful, precious little baby.
You won't want to drink, because you want to be able to care for your baby.
You won't mind not going out with friends, because you'd rather be at home cuddled up with someone who is always going to love you.
You won't have sex, because you already have everything you could possibly need.
You will go to school, and pass, because now you know you have a responsibilty, something that you don't have to do for just yourself, but for that little one you love.
You won't mind getting up in the middle of the night, you'l love it.
True, you'll miss your childhood, but you won't miss it near as much as you'll love your bundle of joy.
She didn't ruin my life. Now I know that no matter how bad my day at school was, I'll have all I need waiting on me when I get home.
I am not encouraging you to go have a baby, because it is hard. I am, saying that it is not near as bad as all of the people above try to make it, obviously they just don't know what being a teenage mother is about.
Good luck, and I hope that someday you'll get to experience motherhood, to your own baby.
xoxo
Having a baby and providing a "good life" should go hand in hand. Are you living as an adult on your own now? Do you support yourself? How complete is your education? What do you say to your friends if you have the baby and they want you to "come out and play?" Do you unload the little one onto the grandparents? When you can't answer your child's questions because you have no answers; do you expect "the system" to raise your baby to adulthood? How many potential mates are there for a teenager who has thrown away their own childhood? Even adults seldom stick around when the pregnancy is out of wedlock. Get a doll or practice carrying around a raw egg for a week without breaking the shell. Take it EVERYWHERE. You'll only just begin to understand. Eggs don't cry, mess, or fuss, but they do break. So do little people. Good luck and please listen to your elders. They want you to "have a life."
Im 15 and I have wanted a baby for two years now, so I know exactly what you mean I just want that cute little baby smiling there precious smile at you. But I have talked it over with many people and it just isn't the right time to have one, as hard as it may be you should really try not to think too hard about wanting one right now. Right now all your focus needs to be on school and thinking about what your going to go to support you and that precious baby, because when you have one it is just human instinct for a mommy to want to be with her little baby all the time, and it makes focusing a lot harder when comeing to school work. But you need to think about being able to support the baby in the best way that you can which I know is what you want to do.
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I am in total agreement with 'IloveZola09'...
My mum gave birth to me and she was still a teenager... I am willing to become a mum... but I'll not be having any support - so im not doing it... But if you'll have the support from your parents, and they'll be able to help you, it won't be that bad.
Yes, you are at a tender age, you still are only 13... but see what your parents think... they'll know best...
Bottom line - Talk to your parents, they know you best, and they are grown enough to make good decisions... and of course then people will not go round saying ''oh it was a decision made by a 13 yr old''...
Hope I've helped... And good luck with your decision...
xx _ xx
well everyone is saying telling you no,I'm not because kids do what they want. I will tell you I have grown children and it is very hard to do laundry,feed them every 2 hours when you are tired,stay at home and watch them when your friends are going out,cause they will not want you to go with them if they have to hear a baby crying.When they get colic and cry for hours it is almost unbearable. I hope you dont expect your parents to raise your child because it is not fair to them. I wish you luck and hope you make the right decision
I too was told this by many medical doctors so I tried at a young age to have a baby luckily my body didnt get pregnant because when I turned 19 years old was when I finally did get pregnant and have had four pregnancies.And I had so many obsticles to over come,but came through them just fine.Just wait you will have lots of babies when you get older.
NO NO NO NO!!! Dont you wanna life? my best friend is 13 and 6 months prego and omg she is going through he**. Trust me dont you wanna party? Dont you wanna experience everything. You too young. And if you can't have a baby adopt one why bring another baby in this work to suffer like the rest of us? Trust me dont!!!
Girl, if your only fifteen, you gotta wait. I actually kind of know what you mean cause I'm thirteen and I want to have kids too and I know it's hard but you have to wait till your grown up. Just think of it this way... all your time of waiting will be worth it when you finally have one. :)
WELL.. it not a good idea, have you talked to your parents about it. if they give there consent then why not. but it is not realy the best idea, it Will BE stressfull, and you are still a child your self. but the best of luck babe.ox
Ok I know you want to have a baby, but your too young, and its not healthy for you or your baby. The baby could even be born dead. And when you are mature enough for a baby, just use doners. They are better than the suffer
your only a kid! trust me I know what it's like to get pregnent I had an abortion when I was 14 and I don't regret it becasue my life would have been ruind if I would have kept the baby.
yeh. don't have a baby.loadsa kids go throughtth but they don't get pregnant because of it. like you sed there is egg donors and adoption which in the eyes of the law the bby is urs
You are too young, this is just a phase.
Besides, having children is difficult, painful, and expensive.
You wouldn't be able to support the baby at this age, anyway.
esp12? what are you talking about? I get to do everything you said a teenage mother wouldn't be able to do? I still go to school? Are you retarded?
yeah you shudnt have one your to young and have your whole life ahead of you .. a baby wud put a major stress on your life
turners syndrome it also effects many other aspects of my body I could die of heart failier when I am older =(
What is the name of this disease that is making your ovaries die, at the tender age of 13?
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