How to tell my mom my dad has another kid?

How can I tell my mom that my dad had another kid with somone else about two or three years after I was born and four or five years before my sister was born? Me and my mom are close but I don’t wanna be the one to start a fight cause my dad doesn’t know that I know about it and that he does drugs and he denys every little thing even if my mom and me watched him do it and then he throughs a hissy fit. (he’s ALWAYS a drunkin a-hole all the time. btw)

Answer #1

The same happened to me only recently. I made my dad tell my mum. It is your dad’s place to tell her the truth. After that be a support to your mum but try not to be stuck in the middle. Its their relationship. Give yourself space away from it and dont get too involved. Sometimes parents use their children to relay information to the other parent when in actual fact they should be communicating with each other. Believe me I know how you feel and symphathise with how hurt you must be.

Answer #2

sounds like your mother needs to kick this loser to the curb. I would have a nice chat with him first and let him know he has the next 5 days to tell mom or you are going to. And make sure all your facts are straight first.

Answer #3

Well its a hard thing to do but your gin to have to do it or it is going to all come out in the air and if she knew you were hiding it she is going to be sad and dissapointed,

Answer #4

You assume your mother doesn’t already know…just because she hasn’t told you, doesn’t mean she’s not aware of what’s going on in her home…if your father pays out any child support to that child, then you better believe your mother knows.

Answer #5

she probably has a right to know, are they still together? for the other kids sake and your moms I think you should tell her. the best way is to just come out and say it but its either said than done

Answer #6

sometimes its best not to say anything you might be blamed for getting involved where you should not have you ever heard that country song I wished I didn’t know now what I didn’t know then. that could be how she would feel but if it ways heavy on your mind then find proof and put it in the mail box for her to find or some way you are not directly the bearer or the messed up news after she finds it she may or may not talk to you about it but it might help you rid your self of the guilt that you should not even feel for his mistake.hope this helps let me know if it does nim23shark@yahoo.com

Answer #7

Yess they are still together and no he doesn’t pay any.

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