How to tame hair?

I’m biracial & I love my hair but I would love to wear my natural hair (because I usually straighten it but not everyday more like 3-4 times a year or less) My problem is my hair only lays down when wet (also after brushing & combing it when wet) but then it shrinks back up which I hate! My waves lay down & shrink up a little but my curls lay down for like a sec then shrinks up a lot I use mane and tail shampoo, conditioner & detangler on my hair (for human one not the horse one)

What can I use to make them lay down ( like this farm1.static.flickr dot com/68/191390709_ 93ef17cc51.jpg?v=0 ) I do not want to straighten my hair at all I would rather wear my natural hair & if it’s a natural hair product that would be great!

Below are links to what my hair looks like it’s both of those mixed farm4.static.flickr dot com/3118/2603777002_e51784efe3.jpg?v=0

biracialhair dot org/images/content/W_HairLoose191.jpg

Thanks so much! do not hesitate to ask me for more info