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How to move on
Hi, I got divorced last year from a very emotionally and mentally abusive man who took away all my confidence with his controlling and ridiculing. I am now rebuilding my life with my little son yet I feel so guilty and so sorry for this man who has tormented me. He is on his own with no family, I’ve a huge support network around me. I denied him access to our child as he drinks and even without drink is abusive to me verbally. A judge ruled in my favour and agreed a child shouldn’t have contact with a man like him… how do I get rid of this feeling of wanting to make sure my ex-husband is ok? I know I shouldn’t be I feel morally responsible for him even though he tormented and abused me. Maybe I have Stockholm Syndrome? Can anyone help? Why do I feel sorry for him and want him to get well? I just want peace in my head, I don’t understand myself when it’s plain to see he is a cold-hearted sick man. Thanks.
Well Its not uncommon for you too feel the way you do, even with the given circumstances, in fact I’m sure its way more common than your or me even know. I am in a similar situation as yours except I’m the dude in this case. She left me because apparently she wants more out of life, the funny thing is she doesnt even know what she wants or even who she is anymore. I’ve talked to her about things since we’ve broken up, she said she still cares about me more than anything, more than I care for myself sometimes I’d say. She still feels this even after we broke up, which I don’t understand then why we’re not still together sometimes. There were other reasons why we just didn’t work out together, but I wont get into that too much.
What my main point is tho is she did tell me even tho we broke up she never stopped caring about me like she always has. The break up was very difficult for us both, but she did tell me that it was easier for her to move on if she focused on all the negative things in the relationship we had. She still breaks down from time to time, this I know, but I think its just one of those things that time will heal.
To put into perspective for you we were together for almost 4 years and 3 of those years we lived together. We've been broke up for 6 months now... I still love her with all of my heart and wish nothing more than to be with her til the day I die, but we've talked about possibly getting back together since then and we both know that it just wont work. Have you ever seen the movie "the lake house" ? well thats us. We are just never on the same page at the sametime but the feelings we have for each other are so powerful they are out of this world...out of this universe. I have this feeling that this is the hardest thing I'm ever going to have to deal with in my life. I'm afraid I will never feel for anyone else the way I feel for her, it sucks, but thats my story.
I guess I just keep telling myself to move on, fill the void, stay busy, anything and everything to keep me moving on in life.
Well, that turned out to be a lot longer than I intended for it to be, sorry bout that. Now you kinda get the feel of what I'm going though right now, your not alone out there, so hang in there and things will work out the way they are suppose to. see ya
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