Hi, My extended family are not very nice to us, and we always try to make Christmas day nice but there is always tension in the air and they always say mean things about our decoration/gifts/food. What we do is actually really nice and its not like we have no money and cannot afford good stuff- we go all out and spend heaps of money but they just dont appreciate it. When its their turn to host xmas dinner, they skimp everywhere and serve up the cheapest food with the most horrible gifts but we would never say anything, so it upsets us that thay are so horrible.
I'm just asking if anyone knows some good ideas of how to make xmas a happy environment this year. My mum, me and my sister all try very hard. If anyone knows any great recipies or games or decorating tips/tricks it would be much appreciated.
Bah, I know it 's family, but that makes no right to have to force anything on them. Tell them next year your not having a party, and just invite the family that don't bicker and complain. If they find out you had a small party without them, tell them the truth don't lie. Tell them that an attitude like that is ruining your Christmas, and you want no part in it. It might sound mean, but they'll either shape up, or get mad. If they get mad, then some family they are. Sorry, not trying to be mean, but like I said just because theyre family doesnt mean you have to wipe their butts with 100 dollar bills, and throw yourself over a puddle of mud so they can walk safely across it.
It may not help this year, but it could be great for xmas' to come. You could try addressing the issue calmly and reasonably as a family, and resolving this uncomfortable situation. It sounds like perhaps they feel inadequate due to your financial liberty. People have poor, cheap, horribly gifted Christmases because they're poor. Consider how they feel, in comparison to your family spending ''heaps of money''
Otherwise there's not much you can to. It's tough to hide or compensate for emotion, especially in groups.
Well, in that case I wonder why you would bother. Sure, family is important, but I don't think you should have to force a good time.
If they have more money than you, and cheap it up when you're there, and then expect you to spend the heaps of money when they visit you...I think that's proximal to taking advantage of you. Consider deeply the emotional value of your internal family's holidays, and if the extended family doesn't fit into that picture then just send them a fruitcake and a family picture!
haha yeah thanks to you both.
my mum actually recently came up with the same conclusion and now we are going away for next years xmas :) we still have tomorrow to sit through but oh well haha.
those people are the only family we have (very very small family are we lol) but we have friends so I guess thats all that matters? lol thanks for your input.
thanks but I dont think that will work. they wont admit to having done anything against us.
and their financial situation is fine, they actually have more money than us lol.