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How to get Indepedence?

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Most people are happy looking towards their 21rst birthday, but I'm not.

I still live at home, yes and I know don't take everything free for grant it, so let's just skip that crap okay?

Problem is I have no financial freedom, or normal freedom from my parents whatsoever.

I have yet to get a drivers lisence, I've had to renew my permit 3 times in the past year and a half since I took the written test. My parents either refuse to take me driving, don't have time or something else comes up somehow.

My mom still will not let me go to any of my doctors by myself, even made me fill out the forms that means doctor can call and talk to her even without telling me first. And was furious when I didn't ask my dad to come in to hear what my freaking dentist had to say!

My bank account is partly under my mom's name so she has access to my account. I don't qualify for a student loan because my dad makes too much money as the school keps telling me. I don't even have any credit because my dad keeps putting it off even after our identity theft place keeps calling me about it every 3 months. I can't even apply for a job because they say it will interfere with my school work and I've tried to apply for jobs but I can't because if I ever get the job my mom works and our only car will leave me without any transportation and there is no busses where we live and nothing within reasonable walking distance either.

If I want to run an errand, of course I need a ride, but my mom has to come in with me of course!

I still even have to call her if I go to the library, when I leave the house, when I get to the library, when I leave the library, when I get home. When I leave class, when I get to the train station.

How can I get any freedom when I clearly have none? Everything is under their name not mine, even my pets at the vet are under my mom's name!

I'm almost 21 and it just getting under my skin and I don't know where to start every time I try, it ends up in a disaster. How or where do I start if I hope to ever be indepedent soon?!