How to be less of a loner?

abygail my best friend is kinda popular. I think her friends are shallow or maybe just not like me :P thankyou tho I agree kind of :-\

if your bEstFriend Has Friends Try TaLkin With THEm oR just Start Talkin 2 Random people Whats Thee Worst That C0uld Happen Itz Better ThAn Bein SHy All urr Lifee Shy people D0nt Go Anywhere iN Lifee

People like smiles!! =D

if you keep a smile on, and laugh lots, people will see you as a more open person. =] try to be kind of outgoing–it’s hard, I know, but you have to take the initiative!! =] go for it, cam-rah! ^^

I was like that at your age and now at 33 I am still like that. Even thought now I am married and have kids, I am still a loner! I tried to mingle with people but I felt like I was acting. Like normal for me was quiet and alone and talking to people and socializing felt like I was playing a role.

DUDE I used to have this problem and I swear to god this helps:

1. go onto chat rooms online it helps you build social skills (be careful though)

2. Try to watch more comedy shows like Comedy Central Presents, Family Guy, and Scubs people like people with a good sence of humor.

3. Try to listen to music that other kids are listening to like what popular now. People who have a good sence in music are cool. (stay away from Miley Cyrus, no one respects someone who listens Miley Cyrus, or Justin Beiber)

4. Have a good sence in clothing. dress nice. make sure it’s a different outfit every day, even if it’s a hoodie. I’ve seen guys who wear the same hoodie everyday DON’T DO THAT IT’S DESCUSTING. Also shower regularly

5. Always have gum to offer people in your class. Be like “hey want a piece of gum” and if they ask what’s wrong with it just pop that peice in your mouth and offer another one

6. Get into as much groups as possible without being in ONE group. Don’t become the Emo kid or the Gangster kid. Be the every kid.

As a former “loner” myself, I can totally relate. High school was pretty tough for me, as I’d eat lunch alone more than 50% of the time.

But let me tell you something: you can definitely become less of a loner! Here are some of the things that I have done to help me become a little more social:

1. When walking in a public place, try to make eye contact with the people you pass and smile at them. It sounds almost silly, but it’s actually a lot tougher than you think. This will help build your confidence. You don’t have to do this with every single person you pass by, but try to do it with about 2/10 people.
2. Hold open doors for people. For one, it’s a nice gesture, and two, you get a little social exposure when the person gladly says, “thank you!”. 3.”Fake” your confidence in social situations. The one way I built up my confidence was to “pretend” I was confident. This works really well in situations where you are in a group of people where no one knows each other and no one knows you. You can kind of have a “fresh start” in a situation like this because no one knows you’re shy, so they don’t expect that you are shy, so you can reinvent yourself and be a little more extroverted than you usually are.

Hope this helps!

P.S. Here is a site I found that could help you further. Check it out, and see if it helps you. [link removed]

Good luck! You can do it!