How should I tell her I don't want her to leave oh of state?

So there is this girl I used to date about two years ago. We broke up be it has been pretty clear that we both still love eachother. Well she got accepted to two colleges of her dreams to be a musical theater major. One school near home (here in california) and the other out of state in oklahoma. Well she is not sure where she wants to go yet and she has to make a descision soon. I really don’t want her to move out of state. But I don’t want to stop her from persuing her dream. I really believe she is going to choose the college in oklahoma. What should I tell her? I don’t want to loose her.

Answer #1

Choosing the right school is a major decision and can change your whole career. Since you say you care for her, you need to put your feelings aside and help her make the right choice according to the school reputation, the curriculum and the chances of achieving her dreams as a musician.

If the Oklahoma one is the best choice then you should encourage her to go there despite you missing her. Just because she moves out of state, doesn’t mean you can’t keep in touch or see eachother again. You can tell her how much you still love her and wish she’d be close by but you should in no way pressure her into staying close to you. If you encourage her to follow her dreams, she’ll be grateful instead of resentful at being held back.

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