I really don't know what to do. Me and my boyfriend had unprotected sex on 6th January, a day after my period, he pulled out but I still think I'm pregnant. I know now that it was a stupid thing to do, so I would appreciate it if people wouldn't just insult me and tell me how stupid I am, I get enough of that as it is. Anyway, I started showing pregnancy symptoms from the second day, and I had my last period and it was perfectly normal, but I am well aware that women can continue having periods throughout their pregnancy. I am getting a test on Sunday, but I'm really upset and worried, because somehow everyone in my year and his year know! I've denied it and said it was just a rumour, but I got so upset that I ended up crying and I had to go and talk to my head of year and then the woman at my school who deals with of this type of stuff(who isn't very nice)... I ensured them both it was just a rumour, and they are doing everything they can to stop it, but firstly the woman actually asked me if I was and I had to lie, and then the other teachers that helped me kept saying not to worry because they knew I way too sensible to be pregnant and I felt really guilty. Plus My head of year said that he might be required to phone my mum about it. Even though he will say it's just a rumour, she'll either be really suspicious, or she'll be telling me how much she trusts me, and it will kill me. My mum's is very strict when it comes to pregnancy and any type of sexual activity, and I'm 14 and a half and my boyfriends just turned 16. I don't know what I'm going to do if I definitely am pregnant, my family will be so mad and disappointed in me, my boyfriend has told me that he will support me through it no matter what, but he still reckons that I should have an abortion. I don't know how I feel about it, I started off determined I was going to have it, then I changed my mind, then I changed it again and now I don't know what to do... I don;t know if I will be able to live with myself if I get rid of it, but with me being so young it's going to be almost impossible to do this, especially since my family want want to support me... I'm so scared and I know it was a stupid thing to do, but the fact is it's already done and I really need some help, I've got to the point where I can't sleep at night, and I cry everyday, and I'm so depressed I had to talk myself out of suicide... All help will be much appreciated xxx
I'm still unsure... I didn't manage to get a pregnancy test, and I've just finished my next period, but my stomach is still big and I've been really constipated. I have IBS and I know that that can cause such problems, I just find it odd that it would all flare up again around the time that it did when it's been ok for the past year or so. I don't know what to do, I'm not sure if it's psychological and something to do with my eating and IBs or if I really am pregnant. My last period came a few days early, and it normally lasts between 5 and 7 days, this one barely managed four, it started out really heavy like normal, but the last day was light and it was shorter than I'm used to :S Even then though, the period before that was perfectly normal. It's my stomach that's worrying me the most, the lower part of it is quite sticky-outy and my clothes feel uncomfortable to sit in, and it's made loads of weird noises lately. The constipation is really bad too, I don't want to go into detail, but I took fibergel for about three nights or so and nothing happened. I go about twice a week, and even then I don't get very much out. A day doesn't go by were I don't think and worry about it at least once, the only time I ever feel normal is when I'm with my friends, they always make me feel better, but when I get home I just don't feel right :( x
Good news is that the school aren't gonna get in touch with my parents, and everyone other than my closest friends think it's a rumour. I'm gonna have trouble trying to see my doctor because my surgery is quite far away and my mum doesn't let me out very often, especially when it's dark. My friends said they'd come with me to buy a more expensive test and I'll see what happens with that. My symptoms have changed so I don't really know what to think, I had a normal bad stomach on Saturday, but since then even though it's settled I haven't been able to go to the toilet so I don't know if that's from the problem on saturday or if it's just another symptom. I thought maybe that might be the reason my stomach's swollen as well, but it was slightly swollen before that so I'm not sure. I don't really feel sick any more, I'm tired a lot, but that could just be because I've been really stressed and my sleeping pattern has been off... Oh well... My next period is due in a about a week and a half, so hopefully I will get that and get another negative result and then hopefully my stomach will shrink lol I'll keep you updated :) x
calm down sweetie. you dont even know for sure if you are pregnant or not. just try to chill out until then. id like to help more when you find out.. keep us posted. also, I def wouldnt tell my parents or anyone until it was confirmed by a doctor. in the meantime, take your mind off of it and dont ever take suicide into consideration, that wont help matters at all and there are a lot worse things than maybe being pregnant. if you do find out you are, however, keep in mind you are young and you decide what you want to do with your body, keeping it, abortion, adoption, its entirely up to you. but everything needs to be thought out before a big decision is made. but like I said, try to calm down and wait until your test before you freak out. good luck
sorry I havent replied until now, im not sure about your situation. I think maybe you should make a regular dr appointment, just tell your mom your sick or having stomach pains or something and go in by yourself and tell the doctor you might be pregnant, thats the only thing I know for you to do : ( but a friend of mine thought she was pregnant the first time she was with someone, her period was late and stuff too but she didnt end up being pregnant. im pretty sure stress can mess with your period, so that may be it. but like I said you should really try to go get a check up or something and let the doctor check, and you probably should know for sure before a surgery, im pretty sure theyd need to know lol
It's ok, I haven't been on for awhile anyway... I went to a clinic with my friend and the nurse took another negative test... I've started feeling symptoms again, but I've had another period, and all I can think is that it's all coincidental, psychological, or that the stress has completely messed my hormones up causing the tender boobs and stuff :/ Oh well... When I was sure I was pregnant, I'd already put a lot of thought into it and decided that I was definitely going to have the baby, so I guess if I am, waiting a bit longer isn't going to make much difference. Thanks for all the help and advice you've given me :) xxx
could you go to a doctor and have them check? it would be much more accurate. I hope no one calls your mom either, but try to go to the doctor and if they say your not then at least you can tell anyone else who finds out that it was a rumor. Im not sure about the symptoms your having, but it could be partially coincidental, like your jeans feeling tight, and partially feeling really scared and paranoid. I dont think your pregnant, those tests can be wrong though so the only thing you can do to be sure is see a doctor. good luck : ) keep me posted
Thank you x It wouldn't be so bad if the whole school weren't talking about it, and my teachers hadn't had to get involved... I felt awful having to lie to my head of year because he's really nice, but something similar happened to my friend last year and they called her mum straight away... I'll tell you what my test says on Sunday, although to be honest, I really do think I am, I had pregnancy symptoms before I even knew they were symptoms... Thanks for the help :) xx
I took two tests today, and they were both negative, but I'm still not convinced because my jeans still feel tighter than usual, and I still feel sick a lot... I'm not really sure what to do, my friend said she would come with me to buy a more expensive test later in the week, but I'm still worried about my teacher phoning my mum about it :S
hopefully your not pregnant, let me know! thats good news about the school not calling your mom and everyone believing it was a rumor. I hope the best for you :) hang in there!
your welcome. im sure it must be hard with so many people hearing about it somehow, just try to brush them off for now. tty sunday
