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How should I dump my boyfriend without hurting his feelings?

My current boyfriend is like the sweetest person ever, but he is inmature and boring. He has a great heart, but I don’t like him the same anymore. I’ve gotten back intouch with the love of my life, a more experienced, loving, mature, exciting, and better looking person and I want to see where things are gonna go with us. I don’t want to hurt my current boyfriend I just want him to understand where I am coming from. Can anyone help me PLEASE???

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Answer #1

No matter what you do, you’re going to hurt his feelings. Thats why relationships are so hard and can hurt so much. BUT there are ways you can do it that do not hurt him more than need be and also keep intact your own dignity. DON’T cheat on him. Do not do anything with this “Love of your life” until things are over with your current beau. Have it out face to face when you break up, because over text/phone doesn’t allow closure. He may walk away from you, yell, cry, beg - but you need to let him have his reaction before you walk away for good. You owe him that, right? I would not recommend telling him you want to be with someone else, it will just make him feel worse about himself and hate you, and hate himself, and hate the world etc . Tell him you realized you were starting to see him as a friend instead of a boyfriend, and you just didn’t have that spark anymore, and that you didn’t want to drag either of you along. Good luck.

Answer #2

just tell him straight out. you dont want to be with him anymore… tell him he has been a great boyfriend but right now you dont want a boyfriend. that always works for me.:)

Answer #3

I guess you forgot to mention your current boyfriend feelings for you. Something like that is important to mention when deciding if he’s going to be hurt or not. Either way, I find this nearly impossible, the only way he’ll get over it quicker is with you being honest about your current situation. If he cares about you then he should understand, if not then you’re going to have your hands full for quite a bit.

Either way, you should end it even if you’re going to hurt him now. Postponing the pain is not something you want to do. You already have someone else you like and he might realize that sometime soon. The more you stall it, the harder it’s going to be on him. In all essence of reality, it counts on how strong his feelings are for you.

Good luck…

Answer #4

Tell him, based on his personality he will find someone that can make him happy, thats how “ Love” is

Answer #5

there’s no easy way to break a heart.

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