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How get four year old to listen?

My four year old wont listen to me. she is very loving an compassionate but she picks a lot on the other kid I watch. But at same time always wants her friend over. its I hate you don’t leave me realationship with a lot of people. Shes only four an I have tried everyones suggestions an councelors. She was kidnapped not to long ago and I found her an got her back. Her attitude has gotten a lot worse since then. I reassure her a lot. She has to have the last word and sometimes I feel its her way of controlling things in her life. I love her so much how do I get her back to normal? how do I get her to listen and not hit me. HELP???

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Answer #1

You say if she does “this” she will get “this” or be able to do “this” it is a phsycolgical thing. If they think and know that they will be rewarded they WILL listen. Just make sure you follow through with your reward or else the child will lose trust in you. Honesty is key in this situation.

Answer #2

say that your going to count to 5 and if she doesn’t stop picking on her after you’ve counted to 5 then hit her on the bum. I’m living with a terrible 2 year old so it could work. maybe she got hit on the head at some point? you make it sound like she’s two different people, that can quite often happen if they’ve been hit on a certain place.

Answer #3

no no no! Take things away from them…..DO NOT HIT THEM! it tells them that u dont love them or care about them. And DO NOT COUNT TO 5 they hate that and want to act out MORE. just say please stop or your going to timeout.

Answer #4

i already count to 5, he just don’t listen to me! thnx anyways

Answer #5

I agree..just take stuff she likes away from her and tell her if she wants them back she has to knock it off! It will probobly result with her crying but she’ll get over it..DOn’t think that your holding her prisoner by taking stuff from her..if this works you’re not putting her against her will you’re just getting rid of a bad habbit.

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