how do you tell your boyfriend to change or you're leaving him?

I don’t agree with the person above completely but I do in a way.

You yourself cannot change him. That’s what you need to know at the start.

You should just find a quiet time and say something like “I really have a problem and it’s been playing on my mind. Just hear me out, okay?” I believe a relationship should come forward about problem they’re having in it. Because when you know what’s a problem then you can know if you want to change for the other person.

I had anger issues. I would RAGE at my mother and my boyfriend for little things cause I was so high strung. My boyfriend loved me, but he HATED it. Same went for my mother, she just couldn’t deal with it anymore. I’m a nice person and I hated myself for what I did.

My boyfriend and I say that we have to tell every problem we have with each other so we can just know it and see if we want to change for them. Well he told me that he loved me so very much and he didn’t want to see it come to this but If the anger doesn’t stop then he was going to leave. He hated seeing what happened to my mother and him. I cried and I didn’t want that to happen. So over a couple of mouths I changed. It was really hard and I became depressed for a while but finally. I made it! Me and my boyfriend get on so much better now and same with my mum. I feel so better.

Just tell him. Because even though something hurts it sometimes is the right thing. A The Fray song says “Sometimes the hardest thing and the right thing are the same.”

If he wants to change for you, he will. But if he doesn’t care enough for the relationship enough to change then it’s not fair on you to be with someone that you have a major problem like this with, you have to leave. I completely understood when my boyfriend told me that.

In the end you don’t want to have regrets. So try your hardest to save what you have. It’s about you in the end and what you want.