How do you get over someone?

She thinks I should date someone else, and that would help… I have dated though, it hasnt helped in the past, I just end up feeling bad because id rather be spending time with my friend… and they tend to pick up on how important he is, and I dont think that helps…

lol, see problem is BEST FRIEND… its hard to cut off contact from the one person you can not live without…

There is only one good way in my view, but it’s not very nice. Stop all contact for 6 months at least.

just get over him but just ask him if he likes you first but you never know he might like you back

Gosh. That’s a tricky spot, isnt it? Do you think it’s interfering with your everyday life? I suppose… if it’s unresolved it’s stopping you from meeting others that you could fall in love with, then maybe it is interfering… What about therapy? Hard to find a good therapist - always better if it can be recommended by someone else. I don’t think there’s a quick fix for this one. If you;d say, oh, 3 months… I’d say it was a passing thing. But 4 years is a long time to be a slave to an unrealistic expectation. Is he the type you can talk it over with? Do you think it would make a difference if he knew? How would he react? Guilt? confusion?

yea I know exactly how you feel right now except he’s not gaay.. well yea he has a girlfriend..&& he’s had girlfriends since weve been friends.. but this ones a royal btch.. yea she threatened to kill me if I talked to him again… but yea it is really hard..im working on it right now..I don’t know im getting rid of EVERYTHING from him.notes,pictures,anything that he’s touched really…

Lol, yeah… its not like its ever going to happen… its torture being around him sometimes…

he’s gay… not much chance of that…

What does your therapist think you should do?

LOL. Are you sure you want to get over him?