How do you deal with abuse?

My best friend is being abused. Her dad is hurting her and I dont know what I should do I promised I would not tell anyone. So right now I am worrying about what is gonna happen to her? I dont want her to get hurt or even killed. Please help.

Answer #1

brendanrulz is right, and social services is a waste of time. Tell your parents about it and maybe they will let her temporarily stay there for her safety. I stayed at a friends house once for almost three years and they were very understanding and it was a happy home to live in. My grades went way up, I was more involved at school, and I felt wanted. She should cut out all communication with him too because moving back in with him will not be a good idea; he would probably try to get her back. Some parents only want their children to move back in so they can claim them on their taxes at the end of the year to get money. The new guardian would also need to get custody rights of her for school, medical purposes, and other situations so that dad isn’t needed. Unfortunately, this is a common problem with many people who don’t have anywhere to go in these situations. I hope she gets help soon

Answer #2

When someone is in a abuse situation then they will be incredbly intimated by the person who is abusing them. Telling them to call the ploice or ask for help is never going to work. In order to do something you have to take her out away from that person for good, if that means taking that person into your home then so be it. If the ploice get involed when she is still inthe house then things will get a hell of a lot worse. The ploice take ages to do anything. I was sufering from abuse with my uncle and I said enough is enough im leaving and I did the next day I went to the school counsler and we talked about what to do. Im now living with my mum never to see my uncle again. So just take her out and leave her out

Answer #3

yes, would you rather your besti b mad at you for a lil while, or your bestie get hurt, or worse killed?? I agree with the person above. and honestly if I was abused I would tell someone and throw their but in jail!

Answer #4

You could tell your parents, and see if you guys can anonymously call social services.

Answer #5

I hope this still isn’t going on, but in addition to what the other girls have said, your friend should be photographing any injuries her dad causes on a camera, digital or disposable film type. She needs to get out if she can, get a restraining order (which the pics will make very easy to get) and to press charges so she can sue her dad, make him look at prison time and make him rightfully pay for councling, and other things she will need to recover from his “parenting”.

If he is abusing her, there is no reason to make excuses for him, nor to grant him mercy.

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