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How do I tell my boyfriend his drinking bothers me?

Well, my boyfriend is three years older than me, but he’s still under the legal limit for drinking. Despite this, he’s had an alcohol problem for years. He has cancer in his blood, and he’s required to keep a very very low minimum blood alcohol content every day - only about 0.06 - but he always drinks more than he is medically required to. I don’t want to seem like I’m trying to tell him how to live his life, but I am worried about him. How do I tell him that I don’t want him to drink so much?

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Answer #1

telling an alcoholic they cant drink is like telling a horny dog they cant mate..

its not possible..

the only way is to have him admit hes got a problem and once hes admitted he does have a problem only then will you make any process and alcoholism is very tough to get over without the right support…

if he has cancer maybe hes just trying to enjoy what time he has left.

you could try just explainig to him your concerns (but try to mention the drink as least as possible) and see if that helps. but if hes a true alcoholic nothing you say will make any difference..

good luck

Answer #2

You dont tell him you dont want him to drink so much (that makes it seem like you’re trying to control his life), you tell him you’re worried about his drinking and how it is affecting his health. You tell him you want him to be around for a long time so you guys can be together. Will any of this make a difference, maybe, but probably not. If he’s got a drinking problem, he needs to face it and accept it. Till then, nothing you can do to stop him.

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