How do I stop hoping to be pregnant?

of course I want my child to have a stable loving family… thats why I havent been TRYING to conceive.. like I said im not sabotaging condoms or anything crazy like that… its just when the time of month comes around and im not feeling those awful cramps yet, part of me starts secretly hoping that my birth control was defective or the condom busted and no one noticed… then when my period shows up sometimes I feel really devastated over it, maybe its the hormones or something I suppose, I really need help I guess because even though im having safe s*x, everytime my period starts it hurts me emotionally and then im depressed over it…

For some women, your maternal instincts kick in when you see any baby, and especially an offspring of your sibling. It’s normal. However, have one because you WANT one, have one when you’re ready. Plan and be sensible.

I’m sure you’ll be a great mother, but being a good mother means being grown up and providing for the kid. How are you going to support yourself without an education and a steady job? Think about the child and his/her future… Dont you want to give the best you can to that child? Dont you think a child deserves two parents who are in a stable relationship and earning enough to provide for him/her?

It’s okay for your maternal instincts to kick in when you’re around your nephew, mine do everytime and my nephew has my entire heart and he knows that. I would do anything for that little boy, including giving him my life…now that I’m having my own, my child will have my heart, but he will too still. It’s normal to want a child at such a young age, most girls do…however, I’m glad to hear that you know that right now you’re better off (as your unborn child is) to wait until you’re stable, and able to care for this child not just mentally or emotionally but financially.