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How do I get them to back off?

For the past year I have been taking care of myself for the biggest part. I buy most of my own and my pets food, clothes and anything I want. I pay for school cell phone and saving for college. but it still isn’t good enough for them. they can only tell me what I am doing wrong. that I don’t clean good enough and that don’t spend enough time with my pets. I was always trying to be a good kid. I don’t act girly though that doesn’t bother me. I was in sports and got good grades plus I had two jobs. until this summer when I finally said “f*ck it!” quit one of my jobs dropped out of sports and started doing online schooling. To make it even better I went from preppy to somewhere between goth and emo. I just got so sick of pretending. now the critisism is even worse. my entire family besides my brother and cousin think I’m a freak and my parents keep telling me how disappointed they are with me and how much I have changed. I have given up on their approval but I just want the critisism to stop what should I do?

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Answer #1

Go right out and tell them that you are disappointed with how they direct themselves to you. Tell them that it’s your choices now and that you will still stay close but at least look up to you rather than down. Tell them that it’s not helping you in any way. If it continues get a friend of theirs to help you tell them, someone who likes you and understands you.

Answer #2

ignore it. yes I know its hard but if you have been doing this all on your own you are off to a great start on living your life on your own. they probably just dont know how to tell you about the great things you do. my parents were like that. theyve gotten better but for a wile there I just had to ignore them even tho it still hit me like a knife everytime I tried really hard just for them to tell me every little thing I did wrong. you have to believe that you can acheive anything or you could talk to them about it. either way believe that you ccan go far. and from everything they tell you, you did wrong learn from it. I hope I helped. (:

                          - midnight dreamer.
Answer #3

tell them to stick a sock in it or tell them to f*ck off

Answer #4

Just Speak out and tell them straight out how you feel. Don’t hold all there bullshyt criticism in. Its sickening and very annoying. I have parents like yours. I mean just tell them how it is and for them to chill out. I mean they are your parents but by doing what they are doing they are just pushing you farther and farther away. I mean I understand you.

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