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Ok so I found out that my boyfriend is planning on having a suprise party 4 me on my bday 2 morow, and theres gona b a bunch of people that I dont like there. He and his friends invited there friends that I really dont like and my bff wasnt even invited, I found out about the party from my bfs friend, and he said that my boyfriend has worked really hard on this and has spent like all the money he has on me and this party. I dont want 2 go 2 this party, apparently it is at the park and my boyfriend is somehow going 2 drag me down there and there will b a ton of people there. If this party was made by him and my friends I would b happy, but this party was put together by people that I barely know and some that I really dont like. Please help!! my bfs friend says I have 2 go or it will hurt his feelings what do I do??
Without sounding mean you lose either way. You either hurt his feelings or do something you don't want to do. However, sometimes in life you put others before you cause you're a good human being and you love people. Just don't let this good trait result in people taking advantage of you. IMO...attend, TRY to have fun, thank him because he did work hard and then be honest with him the next day. He's a good boyfriend if he understands and appreciates you still attending. He doesn't, he doesn't appreciate ya.
Go to it my dear, just don't talk to the other people, your boyfriend really went out of his way to do this!! Just hang out with him there. After your 'surprise' bit, act like you really want your bff there too, and ask him if you can call her to come over to the party (of course call your bff now to standby). He seems like he loves you a lot and im pretty sure he'll say ok. He probably just doesn't have most of your friends' numbers to call to invite them to the party.
