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How do I cope with this.. ??

My boyfriend is ok..but he’s not hot. I’m in love with him..and I’ve told a couple of close people to me about him and my grandma adores him. I def wouldn’t say I’m shallow [after all he is my man], but I feel a little self-concious about going out with him in public and really flaunting..I normally dated guys who were more attractive in the face. I don’t plan on breaking up with him at all..that’s not even a part of the equation. I juss would like some advice on how to give myself piece of mind and to stop worrying what other people may think about me and my guy together. He really is a beautiful soul..I juss wish people could see that too and to not judge.

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Answer #1

oooh thank you soo much. I haven’t been up here in a looong time so I’m now seeing this. but I mean I’m still with him and I still feel the same way..so your advice still helps me out a LOT. thnks so much, take care !! :)

Answer #2

Ohh hun, I’m sorry to hear that. The belief is that -beauty is only skin deep- is only half true, people have to be attracted to the guy/girl as well. That something that attracted you to your boyfriend before you knew him as a person is what matters. SOMETHING made you say hey I like that guy. People who judge solely on looks are shallow and will never truly be happy, because everyone’s looks deteriorate over time. People just can’t keep getting new spouses when the other one is not up to their standards anymore. So don’t worry about what people think, it’s important how you feel and what you think! If you know him to be as you put it a beautiful soul then keep that in your head always when you’re out and about. Just keep focusing on his inner qualities and in time he will be more good looking to you (it happened with my friend) Good luck with it <3

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