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How do I bring up moving out with my parents?

I’m 17, just graduated from high school, and starting at the community college in the fall. My boyfriend and I started dating last August, and he turned 18 in January. Since I was born in California, I started school early, so I won’t be 18 till November. He wants to move into an apartment together by the end of this summer, and I don’t see a problem with it, but I’m having issues trying to bring it up with my parents. It’s not that they’re strict or anything, but my mom started bawling when she was ordering my cap and gown. I’m their oldest daughter, and I doubt they’re gonna be okay with me moving out this summer. My boyfriend and I both have jobs, and the rent is cheap so financially it won’t be a problem. But how do I convince my parents that I’m old enough to move out and be on my own when they don’t even want me going to the movies if it doesn’t end before 11?

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Answer #1

just so you know dating someone and living with someone is two totally different things.

When you are dating guys do there best to make things seem kosher, but once you are locked in, the true them comes out. Does he like things clean, yeah but does he clean, probably during the honeymoon phase, but after that all bets are off. Do you really want to be cleaning up after him all the time, dishes, cooking, cleaning, laundry. loving someone is great and all but like you said you are only 17, you should move in with a friend that is a girl first. the strain on a relationship over tiny things when you live together become huge because you don’t have your own space. Do you realize that you would most likely be the one who wants o “Decorate” the place wil he would rather have a Man Cave. Lots of compromise is needed, how much can he handle? How much can you handle? Moving out is fine you are an adult but just be smart about it.

Answer #2

That’s tough. Well if they’ve been able to trust you through out highschool then I dont see a problem. How ever if you did some things that they didn’t like well it may be hard for them. Tell your mom you’ll keep in touch obviously and whatever.

Tell them they have nothing to worry about. Just casually bring it up when everyone is in a good mood. Bring up some good points and they will eventually agree.

Good Luck!

Answer #3

See but my parents would rather me see if it would even work out at all. The biggest test is seeing if we can work out problems and see if it will work. My dad’s already talked to him about the marriage thing, and he doesn’t want it till I’m set in stone in my career and college. My boyfriend understands and respects that and isn’t planning anything until we’re both sure.

Answer #4

Just me as a parent but what would hurt me most…no marriage.

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