How do I becoume the boss of my house?

Dear the_anti_prep, In my work I teach teens to get what they want in life…They can do this through attitude. Trying to take the dominant role in a family will not get you anything, in fact it will get you working much harder then need be. Adults will argue and yell because they feel no one is listening and no one understand what they are saying. So to gain control of your life you must let them know you are listening when they tell you something and that you understand they are indeed the ones in control and that you perhaps can make things easier for them. You change your attitude…when you are asked to do your chores you do them and let them know you understand why it’s important for everyone to work together, when they say no you can’t stay out past curfew you say I understand you fear for my safety and that it is important for you to know where I am. Eventually they will trust, they will respect your opinions and most important they will see by your example that arguing and yelling is not a way to get what you want. Give it a try…what have you got to loose. Sue…good luck

Let me get this straight. You are 13 and you think you should be head of your household?

You want to be boss of the house? Grow up, get a job, pay your own rent or mortgage, pay your own utilities, buy your own food. Then you can be boss.

As a minor your parents are responsible for you; you aren’t responsible for them. I don’t care if your parents are strict, argue a lot, whatever. Their house, their rules.

You think your father is egotistical? Look in the mirror hon.

seriously ask sue90 she is great at stuff like this

Your arrogance and immaturity runnith over - Some reality: Growing up is very difficult—for both you and your parents. They remember a little bundle of joy that they held and nurtured as a baby and now they see a budding adult. These days, children face things and know about things that their parents would never have imagined at the same age. The teenagers of today look older, act older and want to be older than their counterparts did just 20 years ago. It is the desire of all parents for their children grow up in the way that they should go (loving, caring, respectful, and being of good solid character). It is necessary that you truly understand that your parents have your best interests at heart. They will withhold privileges, set limits, and raise you to the best of their ability (neither they nor you are perfect), but be Thankful - They Care - many, many, many don’t. Ask them for guidance and seek to understand what truly motivates their decisions. One of the best ways to prove your maturity and prove that you are ready for more trust is to be respectful of your parent’s wishes and accept their guidance. Learn how to communicate love, honor, and respect to each other.