How come I have such a strong urge to become pregnant at 17?

I was in the same position as you. I was out on my own at 16 with my own place with the man I was going to spend the rest of my life with. I was fully grown up, and had a job. A baby was always on both of our minds. We actually tried. Then decided to stop trying and oops, I got pregnant. It was great, lots of attention, I loved the baby inside of me. Thinking we were closer than ever. Once the baby came, we were clueless. Everyone is a little lost when they have their 1st one. But it caused a lot of stress, lost friends, lots more tension between my boyfriend and I. It was so more expensive than I thought. Needless to say, I had several nights when my daughter was a few months old where I decided to go be a kid. Where I was immature. I lost custody of my child to my mother, and lost my maternal bond with my daughter in the short time she was gone…she is 10 and still lives with my mother. I am happy she was born, and proud of her today. But I would go back in time in a second and re-think ou baby making plans.

I think that the fact that he hates kids make you to want to have a kid even more because meaby that way he’ll notice something. But the above is right, it takes a lot to have kids because they need so much things. You could be fully stabeled and still not able to care for a kid like you’d like.

I’ve got two kids, I’m 32…I had my first at 23…it was incredibly hard.

My first solid full time job I had when my son was born paid $60,000 per year…between student loans, bills, and my wife taking care of him at home, it was a struggle to make ends meet…of course, we lived in New York suburb.

People have NO idea how much kids cost, and you don’t live on your own…grow up, first, before burdening yourself with bills you can’t begin to understand - or pay :)

because you think you can handle a kid.

17yrs old? pregnant is the last thing you need